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Toastergirl's picture

She never takes off her costume and she never fails to be evil. I wonder what it's like to be an evil witch 365 days of the year? Hmmmmm.

Hex does not take SD trick or treating. She buys her a costume every year for school but does not take her ToT. She has told SD that there are not many kids in the neighborhood so there's no reason to take her. She COULD take SD to the neighborhood a couple blocks away near the elementary school or use her moms neighborhood, but that's a moot point. Hex does not take SD trick or treating.

Two nights ago on the phone SD happily informed DH her mom said he could take her trick or treating. It is hex's weekend. WOW i thought. It's a Halloween miracle. The great pumpkin has sent us a blessing. DH emailed hex asking what time he can pick SD up Saturday and return her.

Hex responds this morning:

DH:

If (and only if) you let me have her for lunch on one of your Saturday's in November, then you can pick her up at 6 on Saturday for trick or treating.

-Dr. Evil

So now here we are once again:
If DH lets SD go to hex's house on our time, hex will do her song and dance routine of "I wish you didn't have to go back to your dads. Ask him if you can stay here longer." Not to mention, it's kind of ridiculous to do a lunch with one parent on another parents weekend (IMO).

If DH says no, quid pro quo of two hours for two hours is stupid, then hex will tell SD, "guess your dad didn't want to take you after all." Then once again DH is the bad guy.

Oh, and hex pulled SD out of counseling. DH talked with the counselor over the phone, who was given no reason by hex just an email telling her that sessions were terminated. DH was not consulted on pulling SD out of counseling.

Happy Halloween in Toaster land!

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moeilijk's picture

I can't think of any way to handle this that doesn't leave everyone upset.

What is the big threat she has over you guys? Is it that she is alienating SD from DH/you, or is she threatening to withhold visitation, is there any reason she could get more custody or CS?

I ask because a possibility is to stop playing fair.

You could agree, then just not bring SD. Or bring her but sit at the next table. You know?

Sometimes our sense of honour and justice closes our eyes to the path of least of resistance.

kathc's picture

I kind of love that idea...bring her to lunch and you and dh sit next to them and have lunch then when the time is up just announce "ok, say goodbye to mom, time to go!" And leave }:)