I despise my ss to no end. He does not live with us. He is 15 now. Lives with his bm.

Here's a little background on HER: She was married to my husband for 5 years, he worked alot, they owned 3 homes, 3 new cars, etc. She was a stay at home mom for my ss, and her 3 kids from different father. My husbands best friend needed a place to stay for a couple weeks, moved in there spare bedroom, hubby comes home from work early to surprise her, she's in bed with the best friend. Oops, got pregnant by him too (hubby had gotten a vasectomy a year before). She kicks him out, blah, blah, blah, ALOT of shit happened, now she hasn't worked in over 16 years. Just lives off welfare (DON'T be bitching to me that people need it. Yes they do, but she is the group that abuses it). Not only does she get almost $650 for my ss, she also only has to pay $68 for HUD housing, receives medical from the state for her and all kids (although she won't use it on ss because it says in divorce paperwork that hubby has to pay for all medical--let me add that she lives 45 mins from us. My husband had to miss 3 hours of work, drive 2 1/2 hours round trip to take his son to the doctor because he had strep throat and bronchitis because she said she was not going to waste her gas on taking him since the divorce paperwork states she doesn't have to pay for medical. ARE YOU F*^&&% kidding me??? Your child is sick and was almost hospitalized because you don't want to use your gas money?????. She also gets free internet, low cost power, free cable, free cell phones (of course not for ss, we have to pay $60 just for HIS cell phone cause he ABSOLUTELY needs data, etc at 15 (a bunch of bs to me), $575 food stamps for her and 2 kids, now shes also on social security disability because she's "emotional not able to work". So she gets on top of everything else, $710 a month for herself and an additional $710 a month for ss and his little sister (how she collects social security on them is beyond me).

Anyways, I will be blogging more details about everything on here. But I HATE my ss. he annoys the hell out of me. I hate having him her. I have asked for some simple rules that he needs to follow in MY house, and he can't even do those. All I have asked him to do while he is here is : Shower everyday. Put on clean clothes everyday (this means CLEAN underwear, socks, shirt) Brush his teeth after breakfast and dinner. Do not drink energy drinks (which his dad has allowed him to drink since he was 10 and up to 3 a day are you kidding me???) Pick up your dirty dishes after you are done. Do not pee on the friggin bathroom floor. I do not think these are hard things to do, and as far as i am concerned, he should already be doing on his own. If I didn't make him take a shower, he one time came to our house on thursday and stayed, sleept, sweated, etc in the same clothes with NO shower and No brushing teeth or anything through Sunday when he went home. That lead to a huge argument between my husband and I. I just don't understand why he won't act like a parent and try to teach him good hygenine when obviously his mother doesn't give a f&&&. She has said it numerous times in front of us that he is only with her so she can collect child support and get more welfare.
I don't want him living with us. I Can't stand him coming over once a month or once every 2 months for 3 days. As soon as I find out he's coming over, I am immediately PISSED off and angry. I am then angry the entire time he is at my house. I hate him. I have tried so hard.

my husband said it's all my fault and that I needed to go on anti-depressants and see a counselor. I did both. They said I'm not crazy and that my husband needs to start acting like a parent to his ss, to show him some type of stability and authority. My husband thinks everything is just fine. No matter how many times I have spoke to him about his son. This is literally the only thing we fight about. I think it will ruin our marriage. I am so tired of him not seeing things my way or listening to me. I told him he needed to go to counseling, he said he didn't that i was the one with the problem.

I am glad to read on her that I am not the only one that has these feelings of complete hate for their step child. I don't even claim him as that. Why should I when nothing I say or feel matters? My husband and I get along so well, and we love each other so much, but then that 1 time a month -to 2 months when the piece of s&^% comes over, it's pure hell while he is here.

God I hate him so much.