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Both stepkids leaving!

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Submitted by tigerlily on Sat, 03/24/2012 - 3:13pm

Their mom agreed and we booked SS15 flight last night. He's going to fly out with SD18 next Wednesday!

I'm so ready to be done with the constant drama, judgment, and lies...when their mom hasn't even seen them in 8 months. I get to sit back while BM and her new boyfriend find out exactly what it's REALLY like to parent, rather than go only by what teenagers tell them over the phone half way across the country.

We are going to buy the plane ticket...

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Submitted by tigerlily on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 3:47pm

SS15 will be charged with a minor. Probation officer said that this isn't a violation of his probation but a new offense. He can still go to his mom's and jurisdiction will be transfered to her state and they will have to deal with it there.

I've told DH we are buying the plane ticket for early next week (he finishes his community service Monday).

You have GOT to be kidding me.

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Submitted by tigerlily on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 9:33am

SS15 just got the okay from his probation officer yesterday to move to his mom's out of state once he finishes his community service hours (he will be done on Monday). He would have been able to finish his 90 day probation out of state, reporting to the office here once per month.

DH just called me. SS15 got busted for drinking on the school bus! I knew this kid was mental, but really, how stupid do you have to be. Another kid provided the alcohol (we do not keep any in our home) and that kid is busted as well.

Update - SD flight booked!

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Submitted by tigerlily on Thu, 03/22/2012 - 11:19am

SD18 got home after 10PM last night. I was outside in the back talking to someone on the phone. I eventually hear our house phone ring nonstop. Somebody kept calling over and over. Of course, I know that means it's their mom and she's pissed. So I knew DH had talked to SD. Amazingly I didn't hear any yelling.

SS15 and SD 17 on my last nerve...how to disengage?

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Submitted by tigerlily on Wed, 01/25/2012 - 1:33pm

For those of you who do well with the art of disengaging and are more seasoned at it, particularly with teenage skids...I could really use some sound advice.

I'm struggling with how one can live in their own home, disengage from the skids and the lack of parenting, and still survive with your marriage?

I barely speak at all anymore to SD17 mostly due to her disrespectful behavior.

SD refuses to work over Xmas break.

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Submitted by tigerlily on Mon, 12/19/2011 - 1:05pm

Update to the flights that I posted a few days ago: SD17 and SS15 are for sure not going to their mom's for Christmas break because BM cannot afford the plane tickets. DH refused to pay for them for her. He also refused to allow SD 17 to use her savings account to pay for them at BMs request (she wouldn't pay it back).

So SD17 had requested 12/20 through Jan 4 off work because she would be at her mom's. With that not happening, DH told her to inform work she will be here so she can pick up a few hours.

The Bitch

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Submitted by tigerlily on Wed, 11/09/2011 - 7:53am

I found out that SS has me listed as "The Bitch" in his cell phone.

Apparently it's not that big of a deal, except to me. Apparently it's also child abuse to take a kids phone away because he refuses to do something simple that was asked of him.

I feel like I'm in some sort of alternate universe in my own home. Wondering am I really that out of touch? Am I really being that unreasonable?

WWYD?

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Submitted by tigerlily on Fri, 12/10/2010 - 8:21am

I started with what I thought was going to be a WWYD question, but it's probably going to turn into a vent. A little history: DH has custody of his two teenage children. Their mom moved 1/2 way across the country when custody was changed from mom to dad. She up and left her husband at the time (not my DH, her 3rd husband) to move in with a boyfriend.

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