I am new to this so please bare with me. I apologize. I have 3 step children. An 18 year old SD by one mother (bm1) 9 and 6 year old ss from another mother (bm2). It is total hell dealing with all of their crap without adding my husbands crap to it. I also have an 8 year old of my own, who's father was recently killed in a motor vehicle accident. I guess my main complaint, at the moment, is "what really is fair" and why aren't the same rules played on both ends? I am responsible for my son, no one else is. I support him, I clothe him, I pay for anything he needs.