How is my MIL worse than BM?
So I have been doing my very best to disengage from MIL since her last round of nastyness to me. She calls me I send it to voice mail. She shows up while DH is home I go hide in my bedroom or bathroom. If she comes by and he isnt home I dont answer the door. She invites us somewhere I make sure I have a reason not to go (plans, morning sickness, something) I havent had to deal with her in weeks yay! Ive really been enjoying my peace and sanity. My DH fully understands and does not give me a hard time about it.
Last night MIL called me... Straight to voice mail. I even said out loud "nope not today" in front of my 15 year old who chuckled because he knows whats up too. She left me a voice mail and because my FIL has had some health issues I do make sure to check the messages she leaves just in case but I dont want to get stuck on the phone with her so I do make sure she has to leave a message.
Luckily nothing was wrong with FIL, she was calling because she wanted to "take the kids to church" and had called my DH first to ask but since he was out of town with work he told her it would be up to me and she needes to be sure I didnt have plans with the kids. I called DH and asked when he would be in last night because I knew he was on his way and would want to see the kids if he got home early enough. Unfortunately he said he would be late and he was ok with the kids going if I was. I know the kids enjoy going to church and I dont want to take that from them so I reluctantly agreed.
Which means I had to call MIL back to tell her ok.... Que her being mean and hateful to me. She is mad that she is not being kept in the loop about what we are doing in our life in general. She knew we were working on having her guardianship terminated but doesn't know how much progress has been made on it so she started giving me an ear full about how she doesnt want to be responsible for the kids anymore and wants her guardianship terminated right now this week. She said it was because she wont be comfortable filling out the guardianship extention that she has to every year (in April!) Because ahe cant tell them the kids still live with her (note the kids have NEVER lived with her she has been lying every year for the last 8 about this) and her reasoning behind it is because she isn't allowed to see the kids anymore, doesnt know what kinds of living conditions they have and doesnt know if they even go to school anymore!
I lost it! I told her that we have let her see the kids plenty and yes she does know where and how the kids live she shows up any time she wants and that the school thing is the most ridiculous thing I had ever heard and that she needed to remember that these kids have never lived with her. And that she didnt need to worry about filling those papers out in 6 more months she wouldn't have any kind of guardianship by then. And I hung up the phone. Can you believe this woman had the nerve to show up at my house 15 minutes later to get the kids! I would have told her to kick rocks if I had seen her before the kids but unfortunately they ran outside and got in the car all excited to go to church. All I could even manage to say was they need to be home before 8!
Then to top it off when she brought them home she just came right in and proceeded to stand in my house for an hour after I put the kids to bed trying to "make up for upsetting me"
When DH finally made it home I told him all about her garbage and he was just as angry as I was. He is calling her and his father today to make sure they are both informed that if she continues her nasty behavior towards me then guardianship papers or no they wont be seeing the kids at all. He is finally fed up with her!