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Submitted by this_is_me on Thu, 09/20/2018 - 7:14pm

So without going into too much detail.... Something rather embarassing and personal happened to me a few months ago that caused a huge problem in our life.  In fact it caused us to almost lose our home in the after math of the situation. Needless to say I have been trying to keep it on the quiet side. Well in true trouble maker style my MIL decided to find a parent of some kids my skids go to school with and air out all my skeletons so to speak.

I was completely blind sided when she felt the need to tell me all about it. She didn't even know the other persons name that she told it to. I honestly have no idea why she felt it was her right or responsibility to speak about this situation to anyone but especially not a stranger. And to make things worse I had been very selective about the details I had shared even with her because she is bad about repeating things so instead of having all the facts she is now passing around her opinion and ideas of what she thinks happened. 

After telling my DH I felt like I couldn't even go up to the skids school again because who know who else she has told and crying myself to sleep last night DH became very upset and actually call his mother to ask her exactly what she thought she was doing talking about me to people. She of course tried to lie her way out of it telling him the other person asked her about it. DH told her that was crap because I don't even have the same last name as them so there was no way a stranger would know to ask his mother anything about me. He also proceded to tell her to STOP talking about me to anyone ever! Yes I love this man for sticking up for me.

I wonder though if she did it because she is being spiteful that I have really limited her time with my skids after past events where she has encouraged bad behavior in them. I also believe she is upset that we have filed to have her guardianship terminated and are waiting for our court date to come up so she is trying to "punish" me for telling DH he needs to take care of that issue since the skids live with us full time.

I really just want this woman to leave us alone.....

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Submitted by fourbrats on Thu, 09/20/2018 - 8:16pm

I guess. If this was a legal issue that could affect the well being (financial, emotional, physical, mental) of my grandchildren or other children (as in you are not safe to be around other kids) then as a grandparent I would be livid at my son even staying married to you or attempting to end the guardianship. I would also warn other parents. By unsafe to other children I mean anything that could be abuse, a DUI, etc. 

If this was a personal issue and not legal I wouldn't spread a rumor or speak to other parents but if it caused financial harm I would speak to my child about his decision making skills and what the plan was to protect the grandkids from becoming homeless. 

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Submitted by this_is_me on Thu, 09/20/2018 - 8:43pm

No this was a personal thing. Nothing that could legally effect or harm the children or the family. It effected our home because it put me out of work for a couple of months and we had not planned on being a single income family. And luckily we managed to "bounce back" financially and have actually made changes to insure that if anything ever happens to one of us again it wont blind side us. 

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Submitted by momjeans on Fri, 09/21/2018 - 7:53am

I remember your blog entry regarding SD confiding in you, because MIL was, or rather... IS, an intrusive pot-stirring piece of crap who tried to cause problems at every turn. Why you haven’t cornered this woman yet, to set her straight, is beyond me. My MIL pulled this telling people my personal business stuff. She can barely make eye contact with me anymore. I say good.