I almost decided not to blog about this because ive gotten some less than positive feed back before on my blogs however I could use some good advice at the moment. 

Last Thursday I had a doctors appointment that was supposed to be a check up of a cyst on one of my ovaries that they were concerned about and to again check my iud. (It was checked 8 weeks ago and looked great according to doctor.) I hadnt been feeling great the last few weeks. I honestly thought I had the stomach bug or something but to be safe I took a pregnancy test. Low and behold it came back positive. So I made sure to call the doctor and let them know what was up. They said we will do an ultrasound at the appointment. Sad news is that they actually found where 2 babies were but one of them did not form correctly so my body seems to have taken care of that. Good news is baby that did form right looks great! We are 7 weeks pregnant and honestly shock but excited. 

So DH cant wait to tell his parents the good news and yes I know normally you wait a few more weeks but he cant keep a secret. So we go let FIL and MIL know that we are expecting. They seem very excited for us and my SD10 and SS8 are freaking out because they are so happy. SS8 has been asking for another baby for over a year now so looks like he got his wish after all. 

Because we still haven't had our court date to have MILs guardianship annulled she wanted to keep the kids over night. We have NOT been letting her see the kids or keep them over night lately because she is toxic in my opinion but the kids really miss their grandparents so DH said it would be alright. So we pick the kids up the next day and all is still good.

Fast forward to this morning when I hear the two of them talking in the other room. I actually heard them repeating some of the things that were apparently said while they were over. I had to interupt their conversation and ask them what was going on. My SS seems to now think "that all of moms time is going to be spent on the baby and no time for us anymore."  I was really upset to hear him say that. I know this came from the in-laws and maybe they didn't mean it exactly like that but that's what my kids took away from whatever was said to or in front of them. 

I very quickly let them know they were absolutely not being replaced and yes while babies require a lot of care because they can't do anything for themselves that did not mean I wouldnt have time for them too. My step kids didn't have a mom for a long time and when their father and I got back together it was a really big deal to all of us and I would never want them to think they weren't loved and wanted.

So my question is first did I handle that correctly? Second do I keep doing what I'm doing by trying to keep the kids involved as much as possible? (I have an awesome birth announcement and gender review planned based around them.) And third should I even bother saying anything to my in-laws because it doesnt seem to do any forking good and they just do and say anything they want and we just keep telling the kids not to pay attention to them because they are old.