Very Grateful I Never had an "Ours" Baby with Chef!
Had my tubes tied in my thirties. At that point I had two children (that I was supporting alone) and that was it for me. Met Chef in my forties. SOOOO glad I didn't have an "ours" baby. Mainly because Chef can't parent his way out of a paper bag. He overlooks the most heinous of stuff if said pet (or child) is cuuuute!!!
I can see how the skids got away with practically murder, especially because he was under the watchful eye of BFFer, Girhippo. We now have a bengal kitten (well just turned 1 yr old so cat) that has been getting away with scratching, biting, back-hissing, you name it because she is sooooo cuuuuuute. I don't tolerate it so she rarely does that with me. Chef says the EXACT.SAME.PHRASES with me when his ferals were coming around:
1. you're too MEAAAANNN!
2. you're too STRIIIIICT!
3. she doesn't LIKE YOOOUU!