Oh The Temptation!
Got another invitation letter to review the need for ongoing "special help" for YSS stb 16 and budding school shooter due to his "learning disability - other."
The last time Chef and I went to one of these meetings for SD, we were promptly told that Chef's opinion does not count as he is the non-custodial parent, so we never attended anymore of these farces. To backtrack, this meeting that we attended was full of drama; the Girhippo practically crying and standing up protesting the holding back of SD a grade as was Chef's suggestion "because of her friends." (what friends? She is nothing but a mean girl, animal torturer and bully, but I digress)
The great temptation is to write a letter similar to the note that the Girhippo dropped off to Family Court saying we will be unable to attend but feel that special education for YSS is unnecessary. What is truly needed is for the Girhippo to actually parent, including discipline, consequences, enforcing classwork, homework, School attendance and not continuing her 15 year campaign of parentally alienating YSS.
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You'd think that BM would
You'd think that BM would want to get all the help with her kid she can.
Our dinky little village clear out here in the boonies (population 2,000) just this last weekend had our two little budding whatevers finally go over the deep end. They murdered the one's parents. As terrible as that is, I am ever so grateful the two young men held off long enough that they aged out of our school district.... otherwise who knows how many school students they made have tried to take out in addition to the mother and father.
They snuck in , maced the sleeping couple, beat them with baseball bats and stabbed them. When finished they wrapped them in a tarp and dumped them over the side of a bridge into the river. Now both young men sit with facing 1st degree murder charges.
Why? Because one of the young men hated his too strict parents (the couple that were murdered) and the other young man was just batsh*t mentally ill with parents who could not of cared less..... even after the troubled nut tried to commit suicide earlier this summer by climbing and then tossing himself off our village water tower (even after losing an arm in that incident, he still was able to weld a baseball bat).
Write your letter. Don't take chances.
That is terrible
Here's the thing the Girhippo has zero rules and is the exact opposite of too strict she expects to throw State money at the problem which is truly her lack of parenting. Wondering if yss would turn on us if we mentioned that he has no discipline in the house.
Send the letter (composed by
Send the letter (composed by you, of course) if only to lay out in black and white the Girhippo's stellar non-parenting of all three skids. Maybe if you outline the fact that ALL THREE OF HER KIDS ARE LOSERS, someone will see the pattern and not be so inclined to accept her line of bull.
What do you have to lose? As Rags would say, have fun baring the Girhippo's a$$.
DH now submits info by email
DH now submits info via email for the IEP meetings with both SSs. One does not try at all, but BM has convinced him that "school is too hard" for him, so any bad grades must be explained away due to a) SS not keeping up with his medication; b) SS's teachers being too strict.
The other SS does have some learning challenges, although it's difficult to tell if they are more anxiety about school (or about life in general), for which SS has never received treatment.
When DH suggests interventions, he is told that he would just be "punishing" the children, who clearly both work really hard (according to BM), but the deck is just stacked against them. BM likes to remind DH that he has learning challenges, too, so clearly this is his fault and he should just feel bad about that, rather than trying to mold his children into competent adults. Despite his learning challenges, DH managed to maintain a B average in school, due primarily to parents who required that of him. In many ways, I think DH's parents were too hard on him, but I would take that over BM's complete lack of parenting / enabling of Lazy SS.