I accept that I made a mistake in marrying someone quite a bit older with 3 kids - all now adults.   I was reluctant to date a divorced man with kids and ignored my intuition.  I thought we’d start our own family and his kids, who were teenagers at the time, would move on with their adult lives with little impact on “our family.”  My expectations were obviously misguided.  Now, I realize that things will never get better.  In part, because my reality doesn’t line up with expectations. The adult kids are ever present and take away my husband’s time and resources.