Aftershocks
The steps went back to their mother last night and we won't see them again until after the holidays. Woohoo! I'm so glad our Christmas with them is over and done with and DH and I can look forward to spending the next two weeks together.
So there we are, basking in my nice quiet and clean home. DH and I even watched a rated R movie that we've had for a while but couldn't watch while the girls were there. Of course, he is soooo sad about how quiet it is in the house without his kids running wild, but I chose to ignore that comment.
This morning I am getting ready for work and go to grab the load of laundry I dried yesterday. What do I see in the middle of the floor? A pile of SD9's clothes. I have complained to DH no less than 5 times this weekend that the clothes need to go into the laundry basket but every single time I walk in there, there are new clothes in the middle of the floor. I feel like if I am nice enough to do ALL the laundry in the house, including that of his kids, the LEAST they could do is not throw it in the middle of the floor. The laundry basket is literally 1 foot from where she throws her dirty cloths It seems like such a slap in the face. Like "Pick up my soiled clothes and wash them Stepmonster!" I finally had it. I went to DH and told him I refuse to do his children's laundry from this day forward. I wash, dry and fold it for them, the LEAST they could do is NOT throw it in the middle of the floor. His reply? "Well, I think we just need a bigger laundry basket." NO! That is not what we need! He needs to tell his spawn that the clothes go in the basket and not on the floor!!! Ugh! Just being reminded of their disrespectful presence is enough to ruin my morning.
Also, after all of DH's talk of how he had finally had enough of BM's terrible parenting and how pissed off he was that she was giving away his children to her mother, he never contacted a lawyer. Guess we will just continue paying her $1700/month whether she has the kids or not.
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LOL OMG you have the same
LOL OMG you have the same Skids as I.....
I wash all the cloths in the house. I fold them and put them in the children room nice and neat. My boys put there stuff away. My SD16 keeps them there, puts the folded cloths wherever they land. And dirty cloths go on her floor. So when she is like " AHHHH I have no cloths here to wear, my DH says honey wheres all SD cloths, my responce "on her floor"....He loves that!!!!
Oh and the kicker the one time I actually said something to her about it years ago the remark I got from DH was SD felt cornered when you talked to her about laundry...I told her SD please bring dirty cloths dowstairs so I can wash it with everyones and you have clean cloths to wear...Exact words BTW.....LOL its so unreal....Now i dont do her laundry at all..
OMG, asking them to bring
OMG, asking them to bring their clothes downstairs from their room is like WWIII and will claim to DH (when they think I can't hear them) that I never want them to have any fun. They will complain and complain that they have no clean clothes to wear and tell on me to "daddy." I tell them if it is not in the laundry room, it doesn't get washed. Once, they complained about no clean clothes and DH went upstairs and found them all stuffed in the bathroom closet. They had been there for weeks and the smell made me gag!
I don't mind doing the laundry at all. I mean it's not like I am going outside to a river and beating it with a rock, but I refuse to be disrespected. If someone was doing my wash for me I would be damn sure to play by their rules. I am not their mother and I have zero obligation to them.
I'd pick it up and throw it
I'd pick it up and throw it on their bed. They'll find it when they return. Let them know that anytime you find clothes on the floor of the laundry room rather than in the basket, you will return it to them unwashed. If they value having clean clothes, they'll eventually get the hang of it.
This is how it was at our
This is how it was at our BM's, but even worse. If one person found laundry in the washer or dryer when they needed to use it, on the floor it went. The floor of their laundry room was a mess of dirty, clean, and wet/mildewy clothes. Throw in dirty kids with nasty Fred Flinstone feet, and a little dog that was rarely let outside *gag*
Don't even get me started on
Don't even get me started on the clean clothes thrown on the floor. The reason why the laundry basket is currently full right now is b/c SD5 wet the bed and all the bedding is in the basket waiting for me to wash it. I've had it and am ready to go on laundry strike. Now I just need to figure out how to get to the garage without going through the laundry room...
$1700 a month?!?! Good Lord!
$1700 a month?!?! Good Lord! What is BM feeding them? Lobster? Skids are so financially draining! I can't speak for every SM, but I honestly think my relationship with DH would be so much better if he hadn't ruined his life (met BM and had spawn with her) before he met me. Just sayin'.
Girl, she gets $1700/month
Girl, she gets $1700/month tax-free, plus she is a teacher, plus she gets all the child tax credits because DH and I itemize our taxes. The SD's were telling us this weekend that she is struggling with money and is living off her credit cards. That the only time they know when a bill is due is when the collectors start calling or when their service (lights, utilities, cable, etc.) get shut off. What is she doing with the money you ask? That's an easy one. She hired a $2000/month nanny. The girls are 5, 9 and 11 and their mother's work day ends at 3. They have zero need for a nanny. And I wish they were eating lobster. At least then I would know that the money was being used on them. They survive on a daily diet of ramen noodles and hot pockets. She sends them to us without jackets in the middle of winter and in clothes they've been wearing for days at a time. She is seriously like the worst mother I have ever met.