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theoutsider's picture

Submitted by theoutsider on Sun, 04/14/2013 - 8:40pm

The kids came back from BM this weekend and they said, AGAIN, "mom called you the witch word but with a b"

Really?! BM?! I know that you hate me for no reason, but do you really have to call me that to your kids multiple times every weekend ??

I can't believe that she hates me that much that she says that to her kids.

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Makingmecrazy's picture

Submitted by Makingmecrazy on Sun, 04/14/2013 - 8:48pm

Those psychos will do anything to get to you, even at the expense of their children. Sad!

abitguarded's picture

Submitted by abitguarded on Sun, 04/14/2013 - 9:02pm

Take the high road and never do the same or any thing even close. People like that are negative and just flat sad. Hold your head up and remember that you are not what the BM thinks.

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Submitted by sixteensmom on Sun, 04/14/2013 - 9:24pm

Agree with Cheri. Tell them you don't ever need to hear what bm has to say about you or dh or your home or your family... And they should repeat anything that happens at your house to bm. No reason not to establish these boundaries now. And as soon as bm hears u don't want or care to hear what she has to say she will fume.

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Submitted by oldone on Sun, 04/14/2013 - 10:16pm

Tell them:

"No - I'm sure she didn't really say that. Nice people do not use words like that. Your mother is a nice person (grit your teeth on this part) and she would never say something so horrible. Shame on you for saying such bad things about your own mother."

theoutsider's picture

Submitted by theoutsider on Mon, 04/15/2013 - 10:37am

I have told them before, "it doesn't bother me, if your mom calls me bad names. She is just upset that I have the life she could have had if she had made different choices"

I have never told them that they don't need to talk about what goes on there... Their mom has already said that, "I don't give a f*** what you do at dads, so stop talking about it." But this was around the time that we were building a home and took them on aweek long vacation to miami beach. So there was some understandable frustrations on BM part that she can't afford to do those things.
But FDH and I have always let the kids come back and "vent" about what went on over there during visitation...
I don't know if they would have an outlet for their feelings and frustrations if we denied them that just because I don't want to hear that I'm being called names.

And I do believe it's coming from BM, all the kids have familiar stories and I don't think they are smart enough to corroborate their stories so details match.