I think my relationship with FDH is failing because of this
I just had a light bulb moment. FDH are going through a "weird-silence" at the moment. It's happened before, this time it's unsettling.
It started on Sunday (After my last post).
We had a chat in the car on the way to work on Monday morning. I told him my concerns of him overcompensating his guilt with spoiling his daughter, which I've since learnt is typical Disneyland Daddy Syndrome, which is unsustainable. After his weekend with SD6 she went to bed early Sunday night exhausted and with a tummy ache from all the goodies she ate with her day out with Daddy.
So back to the car conversation on Monday morning, forward to now, Thursday. our intimacy has hit an all time low... I now have to ask for a kiss, he doesn't touch me and I feel ilke I'm invading he's personal space if i want to cuddle him at night which I can't remember when the last time he cuddled me
So the light bulb moment I had just then was... being critical of him (even if he asks) I am constantly the bad person. So I'm the one left out in the cold. And now I feel like I'm constantly being judged, and I'm sure he feels the same way hence the awkward silences. It's toxic and it's unsettling. He can't see past he's own daughters nose to see my feelings. I just don't think I matter anymore.
PS. FDH is going away for 8 days with his mates, so we'll most likely leave on unsettled terms unless this is talked about before tomorrow.
How do you fix this? I need some fellow StepParents advice.