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We Have Some Mythology in Our House: Oedipus Complex is Pretty Sick.

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Last night, BM called. She doesn't take more than 10 minutes when she calls. No big deal right?

It's amazing how 10 minutes can turn a happy boy into a tantrum throwing turd.

As I complain about her regularly and the impact she has on the skids (read other blogs), you will by now know that BM hates SS9 and totally adores, almost worships SS11. Of course, she will never publicly nor consciously acknowledge her hatred for SS9 but its apparent in her behavior and SS9 picks up on it.

So SS9 talked to her. He doesn't have much to say ... just yes and no. She is a moron because she asks yes and no questions and for a kid with speech problems, that's the most illogical thing to do. You should probably try to stimulate conversation. With SS11, she does. She desperately wants him back in her life. It's really twisted and sick in my opinion. Like the reverse of the Oedipus Complex you know?

She says things like "SS11, you know you are the world to me right? I love how smart and wonderful you are ..." Which is great. Gives him a positive self image - sadly, he is a little egomaniac and we are constantly trying to keep him humble without being toxic - but he knows she doesn't do it to SS9 so he uses that against SS9 when they fight. SS11 constantly crosses the line.

SS9 didn't have to fight with SS11 at all after the phone conversation. Not 2 minutes after he hangs up with BM, FOR NO APPARENT REASON, SS9 walks over to SS11 and starts kicking him. I am totally blown back by this.

Honestly, I normally let them just beat each other up and make sure they aren't too rough but last night I had to break it up.

These boys were always so close growing up and now the resentment and tension is just getting so bad. DH has talked to BM and of course, she takes it as him blaming her for bad influence.

Both kids are in therapy but shit lady!!! ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?

I sometimes wish I had a wand so I could stop these kids from loving/missing/feeling pain from the narcissistic, evil, manipulative snot they call MOM.