SO dropped SS off last week and bought a bus ticket for him to visit his mother and his sister. SO took his phone away from him because there is pictures of the family on their (BM and SO are about to embark on a nasty legal battle)and SS doesnt need his phone as SS has decided he is not going to school. He is a higshchool drop out at almost 18 in feb, he has an almost grade 10 education and doesnt work.
Upon his exiting, SS told SO to "Go Fuck Himself" and walked away because he was "really screwing him over with plans for people" .I see how it is, will not clean up after himself or get up to go to school, but when mommy or sissy comes a calling, you are able to shower, get dressed, pack- amazing.

He is not happy living with us, SO doesnt want to see it. Its been 5 months of torture so far.

However, what did surprise me is that SO told me that if his son goes back to live with his mother, he is not putting much effort in keeping a relationship- i was stunned. He also didnt text his 19 year old daughter "happy birthday" a few days ago, to which he gets a nasty response, that was quippled with, "i gotta be honest it hurt that you didnt say happy birthday" and "im not always thrilled with everything i hear but your my dad"- parental alienation much? He didnt sent a text nor send presents over, as this was in response to him never getting texts on his birthday back in december. He told me his daughter needs to learn some tough love- ie the only time she is interested in seeing him his birthdays or christmas- which is around the same time, they have never once bought SO a present for anything.

Anyways, im away in the states on another work trip for my SO and I am relieved and feel stress free, I dont have that heavy feeling and am free from the drama that side of his family brings. SO finally is seeing his kids for what they are. I have said some mean things about them, perhaps i should keep this big mouth shut-but there is nothing good that ever comes from that side. So far. And im not sure it ever will. His kids will always choose the side of BM not that they should, but their allegiance will always be with her, hes just the guy that pays money every month. SS proved that recently, when SO trashed her, as hes still paying CS for a kid that lives with him and he said, "Thats my mom"- she has paid fuck all for support for her son and refused to see him for several months, suddenly when she knows she is going to get fucked in court its SS come on over.

As fucked up as it sounds,I am hoping that he stays with BM it may divert some CS plans but at this point i will pay to have my peace and leave that side of the family to fuck up their lives, but not mine or my families.