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Do any DH's support the SM's?

Terri54's picture

I have been married for eight years now and over the last few weeks, I've realized that my fight isn't with my SD & SS, it's with DH. I've learned that when I'm around, he does things one way and when I'm not around, he does things another way but yet it's my fault for all the tension in our house?????? Does anyone else see a faulty logic here?

Let's just say SD or SS does something that they should not do. DH would just ignore it but I will not. I call them on it. Depending on what it is, there might be consequences to their actions. DH pretty much ignores it one day but the next day, he might not. I send clear, consistent signals. He constantly sends mixed signals. But I am mean and he is cool.

I'm seeing now how it's so much easier to blame me than his kids or even himself. But this is getting old.

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Starla's picture

Yea I use to deal with that and things since have changed for the better since DH took off the kid gloves. Getting through to my DH for him to see his approach was the hardest part. He has come a long ways and has made it worth the effort as it stands now.

purpledaisies's picture

Yep my dh backs me up he is the greatest. But yep if he doesn't agree he will tell me in private even with my kids he thinks I'm too harsh sometimes