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Warning:Gross details. TIPS FOR POOPING ON POTTY?!?!

TBLG0616's picture

So my future step son is having a lot of trouble with pooping on the potty. I’m wondering if y’all have any tips for me? The back story is a little long and there’s a some gross details. 

He is 4. He is pee trained completely, just can’t poop on the toilet. When he was 1 he began having bad problems with constipation. He was pretty much always on laxatives. It started to get better around 2 1/2. Then we started potty training. He was pee trained in a few weeks. It has been a year and a half and he still won’t poop on the toilet. He has been holding it in, we know that for a fact, bc he will tell us he doesn’t want to use the toilet, then a week later he will go to grandparents and request a pull up and go.(Yes, he won’t poop for over a week except streaks in his underwear) I had wondered at first if the holding forever was causing permanent damage or something, but the fact that he will go in a pull up makes that not true. He will have streaks in his underwear so we know he needs to go, he will sit on the toilet (doing so right now) and just won’t poop except a little mush in his bum that we have to wipe, and then later on he will end up having a turd stuck in his bum that he pushed out after getting off the toilet. We try to explain that it’s the same as pull up, even easier, to go on the potty. He has a special soft seat and a stool, and we make him sit on the toilet 3 times a day at the same time, and it’s just not happening.

I just don’t know what else to do. He is starting pre-school in the fall and obviously he can’t start if he’s gonna get sent home every day with poop in his underwear, bc I know the teachers aren’t gonna deal with that. And the fact that he is ruining all of his underwear, and pull ups are expensive, he is also a big boy and is almost in the biggest size pull ups, it’s so frustrating for him and us. 

Please only sincere actual advice and tips, I’m at my wits end here with this. Let me know if you need any more details or anything. Thanks everyone. 

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TBLG0616's picture

Thank your for the link! I am gonna try a tip on there that says to let him wear a pull up but sitting on the potty while he does. And explained that this is where he is supposed to poop and pee and that he can try for a while to do it on the toilet with his pull up on, then we will move on to no pull up. Hopefully this will be a step in the right direction. Good luck to you on the future with the potty training! Some kids are super easy, and some are just plain difficult like mine. My mom said me and all of my sisters potty trained so easy. So maybe you’ll have an easy one!! 

Thanks again! 

momjeans's picture

It’s not uncommon for children to hold in their bowel movements for as long as humanly possible, but it sounds like you know this. 

I know with some children you literally need to follow them around all day, questioning them if they have to use the potty, every 30 minutes. 

Have you tried some sort of reward system for him using the potty for bowel movements yet? Getting a bag of M&Ms might motivate him.

TBLG0616's picture

Yeah we have tired rewards, same as we did The the pee training, which worked. This time it’s just not working. I asked if he could poop right now in a pull up and he said yes, so I told him then he can do it on the potty. And that he could have any snack he wanted and that me and his daddy and everyone else would be so so so happy and throw him a party. Nothing works. 

TwoOfUs's picture

My 4-year-old nephew has had this issue. He was just afraid to poop on the potty and got stressed about it. 

He'll be 5 in August and has figured it out now. Not sure if it just happened naturally or if my sister and BIL tried something specific. I'll ask. 

TBLG0616's picture

Please ask for me!! And let me know if they have any tips! I would be so appreciative!! Thanks! 

StepMamaBear6's picture

We bribed the hell out of our little boy. He is autistic and has some delays but I must have spent $300 poop training him. Worth every single penny. 

Cooooookies's picture

Have you tried sitting him backwards on the toilet?  Facing the tank.  Sounds odd but when my DS was little, he wouldn't poo on the toilet as he was afraid to fall in.  The daycare lady he went to for 5 years sat all the children on the toilet facing the tank.  Worked like a charm.  Was a bit of a pain when out in public and he had to take his pants all the way off but totally worth it.

Good luck!