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Summer so far...

tankh21's picture

Skids are at our house for the summer as if Friday, 5-31 and BM was sure happy to past them off because she texted DH that he could pick them up early if he wanted to and he did of course. When I get home DH asks me if I was going to the grocery store and I tell him yes I am but you need to give me some money so he did.

I asked the skids what they wanted and I told DH that he needs to tell them that this food has to last for a week and if they run out of junk food then they will have to wait for the next trip to the grocery store which is once a week. OSS was whining two days later because he ate all his junk food. I just sat there quiet and ignored him and DH told him that he will have to wait until this coming up weekend because he has already told him that we would only be buying junk food once a week.

This is the same kid that told BM that we were starving him so she showed up at our house unannounced with fast food and she was told that she needed to leave. Any way, I just am not paying attention to the drama that these kids try to cause. I was gone for most of the weekend and I will continue to be gone until the skids go back to BM's. MIL is coming on 6/13 and staying for a week so we will see what kind of drama unfolds when she is here.

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Siemprematahari's picture

Good for you! Continue sticking to your guns and don't waiver. Being out the house most of the time that step kids are there will definitely make it less stressful on you. When MIL comes I'd be gone most of the time too....Wishing you a smooth time while the kids are there.

ESMOD's picture

Your husband is at home.. he should have been monitoring the food/snack consumption. 

Honestly, I wouldn't have asked the kids what they wanted.. I would have asked your DH to put a list together.. and then get his money to cover that part of the bill.  I don't recall my mom ever asking me what I wanted from the store.. ever.  I mean, she of course knew what kind of food we liked.. but thinking back.. she never bought us any kind of junk food.  Perhaps some potato chips as a treat?  snacks were fruit.. pbj sandwiches.. grilled cheese sandwiches.. celery with peanut butter etc..   Maybe their diet of crap empty calories is contributing to their lack of behavior?

tankh21's picture

Maybe I did make a mistake by asking them what they wanted. I think the only reason why I asked them what they wanted was because DH gave me money to buy food for them.

ESMOD's picture

By letting them decide.. they may have chosen things that weren't on sale.. or were relatively more expensive.. or relatively worse for them nutritionally.  I would ask DH what his preference is next time since it's his money.. if he is non-committal, I would try to get the "cheapest" options so that the kids have volume vs preference.