Sure. I love my DH and if for whatever reason he couldn't perform I could live with that. 

By sexless, do you mean one partner is no longer able to perform? Or unwilling to perform? Being intimate and sexual are part of a marriage/partnership. There are ways to maintain that without the sex parts being fully functional.

If unable to perform, there are MANY ways to keep your significant other satisfied. My DH and I are highly sexual. However, he is 54, and while the spirit is willing, his body is not always capable. BUT, he definitely makes certain *I* am satisfied - and that satisfies HIM.

If a partner is UNWILLING to perform, that's different. The main question is WHY NOT. Is the partner stressed/depressed? Willing to discuss it? Go to therapy and discuss it?

I could do it. Dh is my soulmate. I love him for more than just sex. Sure I think it's great, BUT that's not what we've built our marriage on. So if something happened, I could.

Something that actually really showed what kind of guy my DH is to me was when I told him I was waiting for marriage (my choice) and he said "well if you need, it's all at your pace, if you're not ready after marriage, that's okay. Let me know what you need." He basically offered a sexless marriage if I needed. It spoke VOLUMES to me.

but then again I"m oooolllld. 

Hmm.... I think it would depend on the unable/ unwilling aspect. I am very sexual and so is DH. I think that if it was an unable and meds were tried and effort was made, yes... As long as he didn't get pissy over my new toy collection that i would have! If it is an unwilling/unwilling to try I would have a hard time with it. I would hope it wouldn't be a deal breaker but over time it would compound other issues for sure! So who knows... might have explain that we can stay married but sex will be had even if it's not with him.

I think sex is a MAJOR component of marriage and needs to be discussed as much as finances, and with the same amount of importance.

That doesn't mean people need to get it on like rabbits, but there has to be sexual compatibility, just like financial. Lack of compatibility is what will cause issues.

I'll agree with everyone else that is comes down to reason. Unable and no cure, I'd stay with DH, but he'd do what he could to please me. We Also have an unconventional marriage, so I'd have the option of finding sexual release elsewhere. Same applies if the roles were reversed.

I was married to someone who was unwilling, or at least put in the bare minimum effort. It made me feel unattractive that he didn't want me because I wanted him. He cut off most intimacy, including kissing. We were together a total of 8 years before I pulled the plug, though the lack of good sex wasn't the sole contributor.

Really, it comes down to how much you value sex and how much your partner is willing to help accommodate that need, and visa versa. Depression and pain are going to bleed into other areas of his life, and he needs to get that under control. My guess is that it is circumstantial. Given everything that has happened this summer, I would wait until he found a job to see if things change. If he stops looking for a job, or getting a job doesn't change things, re-assess.

I think you have plenty of other reasons, though, to consider leaving. This really just sounds like icing on a crap cupcake.

I was in a sexless marriage. To put it in perspective, I have been with my SO for a bit over a year. I've certainly, no shadow of a doubt, had more sex with him in that time than in almost 20 years of being with my previous spouse. I am just not yet certain if we've had more than double. By the time we hit 20 months it will be past double for sure. 

We sometimes went years without sex. It was a combination of unwilling and unable and unwilling to do anything about it and he was certainly not interested in helping me out. I was not rejected in kind ways. There was much more wrong with the marriage than just that, but I ended up focusing on it and trying to fix that, because tbh I am pretty high libido. I wish I'd pulled the plug, much much sooner. 

That being said as long as we were still sexual some kind of way, I would stay with my SO. I am planning to marry him and I have no doubt that if I unilaterally ended our wonderful sex life for pure unwillingness he might well leave - he would certainly seek to open the marriage. I adore my SO, I wouldnt leave if he was unable, but I would find it elsewhere if I wanted to. He would want me to tell him. Because I was in a sexless marriage for so long and he has had a similar experience but left much sooner, we have talked about this. Never again. 

It took me a long time with SO to really relax into our sex life. I was still in 'counting mode' and worried about it drying up. If we went a day without sex I'd worry. I don't worry any more. We just went almost three days without sex and I wasn't bothered. I missed it, but there were various reasons, some of them BM related - she's really been putting him and the SSs through the wringer and also - dang - it's really HOT here and there's no AC. 

My DH had prostate surgery and had mild issues for a while. In your case...I'm not sure I would be up for it because he seems to not be a good partner and parent. 

So could I. Yes...would I? Maybe 

So what is it's the woman who is the sexless partner? What can she do about it? There's a "female viagra" that has dim reviews and is outrageously expensive. What else is there?

I hear crickets.