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BM is being really nice and DH thinks that I am Bi polar.

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Submitted by tankh21 on Tue, 04/02/2019 - 6:00am

LOL...BM is being really nice she wants something. On another note....DH and me really need to go to counseling. He seems to think that I am bi polar. That is what he told me. I have been to several different psychiatrist and psychologists and they diagnosed me as having OCD and being high strung. I also have PMDD. I know that I shouldn't let it bother me what my DH says but it really does. Apparently me not putting up with crap makes me bi polar.

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Submitted by Monkeysee on Tue, 04/02/2019 - 6:42am

It’s always easier for them to find fault with their partner for not wanting to put up with their crap than it is to admit there’s an issue. I fought for ages with my DH over this kind of stuff & it’s recently reared it’s head again. 

Difference is it doesn’t upset me when my DH thinks I’m nuts for taking issue with his first family crap. I KNOW he & his ex & their dysfunction is the issue, and I’ll continue to draw boundaries until he puts them back in place with that woman. 

I genuinely don’t understand how they fail to see how peaceful it is when boundaries are in place & how horrible it is when boundaries are crossed. What’s changed is not something you or me have done, what’s changed is a line has been crossed yet again & a new boundary needs to be drawn. End of story. Call it what you want but get it done or hell hath no fury like a wife dealing with sh*t from an ex.  Ugh. 

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Submitted by Lndsy747 on Tue, 04/02/2019 - 1:23pm

It's also peaceful(for them) when their head is in the sand or they're catering to BMs needs therefore we must be the problem. *mosking*

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Tue, 04/02/2019 - 9:07am

Good lord. Not that there should be any stigma associated with mental illness, but getting fed up and snapping does not make you Bi-polar. 

I have a good friend that is Bi-Polar and currently off his meds. He is off the freaking rails right now. Sold his business, posting all kinds of crazy on social media, refusing phone calls from everyone that cares about him, spending money like water... That is a bi-polar person. Not someone who is calling someone out for being stupid. 

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Submitted by Wilhelm on Wed, 04/03/2019 - 2:54am

Have to agree with you. My husband and daughter are bipolar, both medicatec but watching for signs of starting to buy unwanted items is one sure sign.

my husband told me today when he was first diagnosed he bought a crocodile!

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Submitted by DPW on Tue, 04/02/2019 - 10:50am

Watch out for gaslighting. Telling you you are bipolar for bringing up concerns is gaslighting in my opinion.

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Submitted by 2nd wives club on Tue, 04/02/2019 - 1:05pm

Yep. Men throw out the "crazy" when they have nothing else, unless, your hubs is a liscensed therapist or psychologist.

If I had a nickel for every time I've heard a guy utter, "That b**ch was CrAzY!" when they fist divorce, I'd have a nice beach front condo somewhere sunny. 

If he mentions that again, ask him to explain his analysis.