Any other ideas?
Everyone around me keeps telling me that I am a mean person and that I just want to punish the skids. In reality I just want some respect and order in my household. SS does things on purpose and I am always on edge when he is around because of the things that he has done to DH and to me. I know that I cannot change how these kids were raised but I do have the right to be respected and have a say in my own home! Is there any other approaches that actually work besides taking things away? I just feel that this kid is so deceitful and is so fake. I used to feel sorry for him but now I just don't have feelings but resentment toward him.
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What were you having to deal
What were you having to deal with?
I feel you - no advice but I
I feel you - no advice but I so know how you feel!
Even as a bio parent- other
Even as a bio parent- other than taking things away, what do we really have? Extra chores? Gounding? Other than having a DH who actually backs you up and when they mouth off have them drop and do 10 push-ups or hand the a garbabge bag and tell them to go pick up gumablls out side or taking TV and video games away- there really isn't anything else you can do. (Push up and gumballs work at my house!)
Not mean
That a bio parents excuse. But you should be mean, you SO needs to get a job. You SS should be taught by his father to show respect. None of this is happing.
Oh Tank!
You shouldn't have to be mean. Your husband should be parenting his own damned kids instead of letting you feel gross in your own house. Not to say that even if he was trying that he would be successul, but at least he would be trying, which is a thing.
I get what you're saying about feeling on edge, though. I'm in the same boat, and it's frustrating as heck. SS and SD aren't going to "do" anything, other than act super awkward and eat all "my" food, but they're constantly spying to report back to their mother, which makes me feel really yucky. I can't even stand looking at them this weekend.
NEVER EVER
talk to ANYONE about StepHELL with anyone who is NOT a stepparent; actually if you are a StepMOM NEVER talk to ANYONE about stepHELL with anyone who isn't a stepMOM! StepDadville is a completely different story as it is usually CP StepDadville with the accompanying "stamp of BM approval" tattooed prominently on his forehead (TM)
Disengage. Set clear rules
Disengage. Set clear rules and if the skids don't follow them, then your boyfriend is the one who will have to do the dishes/pick up skid stuff/take out the trash.
Nothing you do will work -
Nothing you do will work - you are the dreaded SM. His father needs to step in.
What you should do is disengage. Your DH doesn't have an excuse to need you because he doesn't work. Let him do all things skid.
You go to work, enjoy yourself after work. Then go home and ignore them. Before long they will get the hint and leave you alone. You cant get anything out of a boulder. That is my existence. I am a boulder that doesn't move. Go get your truck and try because I will just dig down into the dirt harder!