Not so happy new year....
So not to my surprise New Years was a shambles. My fiancé’s ex decided last minute that she didn’t want her son for New Years and that my fiancé could have him. Which was fine with us. My SO had been saying he wanted to stay home have a nice meal etc with me and my daughter anyway especially since I have been really ill with this pregnancy.
So we’re readu to get SS and then my SO’s ex then says NO I don’t want him staying at yours and hers house I want you to stay with SS at my MIL’s. So my SO has gotten upset, I say to him it’s fine don’t worry Ile go to my grandmas so I’m not alone with toddler just in case I need any medical attention. Which I genuinely was completely fine with. So my SO’s still had the hump took his son to his mothers and left his son there left for a few hours turns back up at his mothers half drunk and disappeared again. None of us have seen him since! We’re all worried as this has been an on off pattern for a little while now and when my SO talks to me he says his ex makes him feel trapped and then he feels like he can’t breath and all this weight just fills up on him and he just has to get away as he doesn’t want me to see him upset because he’s supposed to stay strong for me.
Now I don’t see it like that. I am fully supportive of my SO. I love the bones of him and just want to help. I think he just needs to cut his ex off and go back to co parenting how they used to which was my MIL would speak to his ex and sort it all out. It then maybe it’s not fair for her to do that? I really need some advice here as I don’t know what else to do? I’m even in hospital again now having complications but nothing more can be done till morning and all I can do is think think think and worry worryvand worry more. What makes it worse is that he’s going to completely kick himself when he knows I’m back here and I don’t want him to feel even worse.