Procrastination and Driving a Point Home
Hi All,
Well, I've had a couple of issues that I keep putting on the back burner and they have been simmering for awhile now.
I haven't done anything about my stepson and the lack of communication from him for MD and the fact that my husband was hurt over that weekend, but I wasn't going to call him, and seem like I was looking for pity on MD weekend. Since he was just here the weekend before, and had promised to call that weekend. (yea, right). And, in reality, my husband could have really been seriously injured with his back. I am just even past the point of anger with him because I am not going to force him to do something that is obviously not important to him.
But then, don't come to me when you want something either. I don't like it when he thinks he can just turn on the feelings and turn them off. It doesn't work like that with me. And then tonight, my husband and I were eating at a sandwich shop, and talking about a TDY that my stepson had told us that he was going on next month. Well, my husband was able to check the listing for attendees and my stepson wasn't on the list, and once again it looks like he is probably making up another story. I just wish her just tell the truth. I am so tired of the lies from him. It makes me so angry that he isn't truthful and is so insultive to my intelligence. It's like how many times do we have to go through this with you? So, I have put off writing him a letter or talking to him because I am really hurt and annoyed.
Sometimes I think that he's never going to get it about being a regular guy and just telling the truth. Is there anything wrong with being ordinary and honest?
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The problem is honest isn't ordinary anymore
I agree with you. I thought I had taught my stepsons well by example about being honest. It just seems that many young people I run across day to day lie as easily as they breath, and that's to anyone.
Then they're sweet when they want something, like you have the memory of a fruitfly, and then it's back to the norm. Maybe you should write the letter to him and hold on to it. It may help, at worst if the feelings of being hurt and annoyed you have a base for a new letter that you will send.
Ignore him....
I would ignore stepson, the next time he wants something, tell him NO. If he asks why, tell him "you only talk to me when you need something, and when you don't need anything, you ignore me or you don't call me. See what he says.
I Wrote the Letter and it is Here with me
Hi All,
I thought that by writing the letter I would at least feel better but it didn't really help. I put the letter in a drawer and shut the drawer. I just feel like almost the last ten years of my life have been a complete sham with the lies from both of my stepkids and I can't deal with it. It's like you give so much of yourself and after this whole thing with my stepdaughter and the manipulations and complete betrayal, I don't who the hell she is. I actually saw a picture of her yesterday on one of her blogs and hadn't seen a picture of her in about 3 years or so. She looks a lot like her Mom and has written that her Mom is her hero. It just makes me stomache turn and my heart sick. So, I pretty much feel like I've lost about ten years of my life. And I can't get them back. It's like both of the kids have played this grand joke on me. This was a really hard lesson to learn from.
Regards,
Sweetie
...Letter didn't work huh?
Sweetie, you sound so sad and hurt...so sorry you feel that way. Maybe you just need to get your mind off thinking about them for a while or maybe forever?? What do you like to do to keep yourself busy? Any hobbies, if none, go and find one. I just recently started craft w/beads and it is fun and I enjoy it a lot. It helps me to not think about my situation w/biomom & stepson. I am so busy doing little projects here and there and keeps me smiling. Wished we were all on the same place so we can hang out, like a little club of stepmothers. Okay, dream on here.... Anyways, find something fun and you'll get your mind of them.
Letter No Help, Crafts Don't Help, Either
Dear Happy Mom,
I guess that I am just pretty much pushed over the edge by my stepkids. The older they get, the worse the situation gets, even though they are now out of the house. It's like people I know have kids and a purpose, and I just don't have a purpose right now. I try doing other things like gardening, crafts, but I have been sick. And really, I guess that with the time on my hands, I am beginning to think that the big joke has been on me. We've moved and I lost my closest friends I ever had and I've been sick. Then my dog had seizures and a stroke and we had to put him down. Now that the weather had been changing, I tried to go outside but am so allergic to the insects and bang, got 9 spider bites and the whole incident with the allergic reaction and I've had dermatitis for a month now. It's like I don't feel I can lift my head above water. And then, one of my close friends just sent me an email that her greyhound just passed away to osteosarcoma (the Big C) in the hound circle. So, I started making her a memory box for her dog's treasured items. I knew the dog was sick, but neither of us was really quite ready for her dog Cassidy to pass away. So for now, I guess I'll just keep treading water. It's gotta get better sometime.
Thanks.
Sweetie