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If you co slept with your kids, when did you stop?

sunny_skies's picture

In your opinion, how old is too old to be cosleeping with a parent?

I'm asking about a child that has no bed of their own, but sleeps *all the time* in their bio parents bed, from bedtime to morning, the whole time.

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sunny_skies's picture

oh yes, sorry I should've specified I think, I meant to ask about a child that has no bed of their own, but sleeps *all the time* in their parents bed, from bedtime to morning, the whole time.

perhaps I should edit my original post, I don't know if I can do that, lol! I'll try!

step off already's picture

All my kids have been kicked out of my bed for varying reasons at varying ages. One at 9 months because he liked to sleep alone, my oldest at about 16 months because I was pregnant with the next one. The next one was at about 1 year but that one was a struggle. I'd have to lay in his bed with him. The minute he woke up, he'd come crawl into mine. Probably went on till he was 9.

... now I've got a 16 month old and am getting her big girl bed all set up in her bedroom this week.

blayze's picture

We co-slept until BS was about a year (attachment parents). Then he went through a little phase at around 5, so I did again intermittently for about a year. He had a crib that he didn't sleep in at all the first year.

Now, this is weird... I co-slept with my own mother until I was 7 or 8. I refused to sleep alone as a kid, even though I was and am fiercely independent. :?

sunny_skies's picture

thankyou for your reply, but do you mind me asking.. When you say "I knew he'd eventually stop, and he did" is that because he had the option to sleep in his own bed? or was there no bed of his own available (only place for him to sleep in your bed I mean) until the age of 6?

sunny_skies's picture

it concerned me when BM had a boyfriend (he only lasted a few months) as I knew BM still co sleeps with SS, and was worried in case the man was sleeping in the same bed (well hey, SS doesn't have his own bed, so unless BM and her BF just waited until SS was with DH to have "sleep overs" then I think there was every likelihood that this happened). It creeps me out that little SS would have to share a bed with a man he barely knew :/

sunny_skies's picture

ok I didn't want to put any details in my original post, as I wanted neutral answers without people taking sides. thankyou for your answers x

but the reason I asked was that BM has co slept with SS his whole life (split while pregnant) and still is, at 4.5yrs old.

He has no room of his own, and no bed of his own at her place, and sleeps in her bed all the time.

I don't think she has any intention of stopping cosleeping anytime soon, and wondered what was normal and what wasn't :/

Teas83's picture

I agree that it's disturbing to have your child sleep with you and your BF. My SD6 talks about sleeping with BM and her boyfriend. She has even said that BM was away once and she slept with BM's boyfriend by herself. I think it's so wrong. She's a little girl and he's a 30-something man.

sunny_skies's picture

I think it's definately for BMs comfort than SS4.5

It's difficult to know if there's a room available for him at her place, because SS is 4, and just talks bull sometimes, and DH is too chicken to ask BM about sleeping arrangements in case she flips out. (don't even get me started at how ridiculous I think it is being too chicken to talk to her about something that DH himself is really uncomfortable with. DH really doesn't like the idea of SS cosleeping)

SS told DH a while back that he lived with 7people at moms house, turns out it's a 3 bedroom place, so that's not even possible lol

The other day he was saying "I sleep in mommys bed because she loves me sooo much" I replied "does daddy love you?" He looked at me all confused and said "yes" I said "that's right daddy loves you, but daddy sleeps in his own bed just like you when you're here with us"

It annoys me that she's feeding him that to explain why she's cosleeping with him, when she's more than capable of affording a place with a room for him.

Stepintime0111's picture

We coslept with bs until he was about 15 months old and then transitioned to a toddler bed. He's 2 now and most nights sleeps all night in his bed but every so often, we wake up and he's in with us.

BSgoinon's picture

I did not Wink

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