She's had the same psychologist from the age of 7, so for 8 years now, that has a very strong idea of her problem. However you are correct that an "official" diagnosis has not been given. I'm not sure what that entails, something officially written? Hopefully it will follow the behavioral center she was just omitted into. Of course everyone involved will do all we can for her. I'm now faced with a decision that I will make after the holidays. Two weeks ago my DH switched moods suddenly and told me he wanted a divorce. I've heard this many times so I said, fine, get the papers together and serve me. He then "switched" again and told me he was sorry and changed his mind. He states he can't handle the way I speak. Evidently I speak in opinions and assumptions rather than facts. It's true I am a gray thinker and he is very much black and white and while I'm open to taking a good look at myself, he goes to extremes with it. Example, I broke a tail light. on our truck while backing up a camper. I apologized immediately then began to tell him how it happened; how I jack knifed the truck. For days following he told me he couldn't belie how I blamed the truck and the curb for the broken tail light. What?? I don't thing the truck was driving itself! It was strange... It's little things like that where he goes extreme, calls me a victim among other names. Well tonight I'll pick up his kids, get pizza, the Christmas tree and entertain all the kids again while he will be with his daughter at the hospital. I know it's not about me but when he just told me he wants a divorce two weeks ago, changes his mind and now it's like nothing happened and it's life as usual is odd.  I feel like a hired nanny and he just needs my help right now. As long as I always admit fault  with his accusations, he will continue to grace me with his presence and his kids? What's going on? I'm not the bad. I have two great healthy kids of my own and a ton of nice people around me! So confusing.