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I can't deal with the stupidity

strugglingSM's picture

I can't deal with BM's stupidity!

This week, DH's bad cold developed into pneumonia. I also have the same cold, but do not have pneumonia. I suspect we picked up this cold the last time SSs came, because BM texted before sending him to say he was sick with a cold and sore throat, but he'd be fine. 

Last night, SS apparently went home and threw up. BM texts DH to say "SS is throwing up and it's all your fault because you insisted on having the kids even though you had pneumonia! Now I have to take a day off from work to stay home with him!"

 

Um, a few things:

1) The last time DH was sick on his weekend with the kids - so sick, he had to spend part of the weekend in the hospital and I had to watch the kids while DH drove himself to the hospital - he asked BM if he could bring the kids home early because he was sick and she said, "that's your problem, not mine."

2) Pneumonia is not usually contagious. You usually catch it when your immune system is run down by some other virus and can't find off the bacteria that causes pneumonia. 

3) Both DH and I have the same cold and neither one of us has had stomach issues, so why would this virus cause SS to throw up? 

4) BM's husband is a "stay-at-home-dad" to my SSs and his teenage son, but apparently, being a stay-at-home-dad doesn't include taking care of a sick child. 

Seriously, I can't deal with this woman. I just wish she would go away. These last few weeks have been really trying for me, I'm so sick of being a SM. I don't need to deal with another grown-ass woman's total stupidity on top of all of that. It's bad enough that I have to deal with the fact that she doesn't parent her children!

Ok, vent over!

Comments

Ispofacto's picture

Your BM is a tool, and your frustration is completely understandable.  Would it be possible for your DH could keep her bullcrap to himself, so you don't have to hear about it?

Our BM used to pull stoopid sh!t like this.  If she didn't have something to bish about, she'd make up some fictional incidents.  She's the type who loves to bully people who can't defend themselves.  She got away with bullying DH for years because he was afraid of her.  I am not.  A few scathing responses actually shut her right up, but some BMs are not as easily deterred.

thinkthrice's picture

The skids would be projectile vomitting and the Gir couldn't WAIT to dump them off at my house.  Chef would  be like "I ENJOY taking care of my kids. . ." (TM)

When my bios had visitation and they were sick, i wouldn't inflict it on ex-husbands.  I would offer them to make up the time when kids were feeling better.

I invariably caught some horrible pestilence from the infectious skids and so did Chef causing missed work days, etc. 

I will say one thing though.. .when skids were ill, they were the best behaved that they had ever  been.  Quiet and keeping their hands to themselves.  THAT was the only benefit!!!

Simpleton21's picture

When dealing with a GUBM everything is always the ex/father's fault.  At least that is what I have noticed with our crazy BM.  SD not behaving at her house - our fault.  SD sick - our fault for letting her play to much at our house. BM has a clause in the CO that she keeps SD when she is sick because obviously she is the better more well equiped parent, lol!  Probably the only part of the their CO that I agree with.  I don't think BM is the better parent by any means but I definitely don't want the added germs in our home if we can help it.