The poxy room saga...again.....
So this weekend, its been harrowing to say the least what with whats happened with SS17 (who is alive and ok)......OH and I bought babies cot bed on Saturday...we were meant to be getting the bunk beds, but that didnt happen either.....although, with events, I can kinda understand the slackness of this weekend....however....
Yesterday, the girls were happily playing upstairs in my BDs room, and OH and me were chilling downstairs....I had mentioned that I had sorted my BD7s books and SD7s books out, and the easy ones I had separated to save for baby......OH seems to have taken a different stance....yet again.....this time he got all snappy with me!! He said that he would just "dump all SD7s stuff at the charity shop and have done with it" :jawdrop:
I was shocked, considering that I had actually made headway with this.....SD7 cannot move in that room at all!.....so I stayed quiet......and when he got ready to take SD7 home, I asked him to take SD7s black bag of clothes with him, which he happily took (but then, I knew nobody would argue the clothes gong to BM, she wont buy and and OH hates that I wont allow clothes to be bought for BMs purpose, BM has maintenance for that!).....I couldn't understand how he could go from one extreme to the other......after all we have less time than first planned, only 9 weeks ish.....so last night, I took matters yet again into my own hands......I moved SD7s stuff, to a storage cupboard that is outside the flat.......and tonight, I am telling him that he i to move the draws and cabinet out either tonight or tomorrow night...WITHOUT FAIL....Im also telling him to shift the bed base......and then, my mate is coming up to see me, and we stripping the bedroom to start the painting! Ill even put the draws together myself if I have too......
Im not waiting any longer....its OH dragging his feet....the girls just want to get on with sharing......I just want the nursery finished.......
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I genuinely thought he had
I genuinely thought he had faced it the room scenario......thought it had actually made progress!
He is recovering from addiction, and doing well too.....he still gets help, and speaks to them even if he has had a good week.....that was the odd thing with OH......he still seemed to function either with or without them in a similar way....its why I never suspected his gambling and cocaine abuse.......luckily and thankfully, his gambling hasn't relapsed and its been over 12 months now :-)....his cocaine, after the dodgy bit in the bathroom, he has been clean......and he has stopped his smoke too.....ive wondered if this is why he keeps chopping and changing too......
Ive tried to put it down to him being over tired after what SS17 did the weekend, as he had no sleep whilst working nights......but I know its everything, addiction abstinance included......but yes your right, he is the only one stopping the nursery completion.....
Thats right...cocaine free
Thats right...cocaine free but has since decided to stop the smoke.....he has done well re the cocaine, ill give him that, it is a battle for him (not that id know) so I give him that little bit of room to get through what he needs too.....
Tommar; yes, he admitted a few months ago that he was taking cocaine...he was clean, then had a blip in the home which I found the wrap from...but ahs been clean since then.....
The smoke he did cut down on...but decided last week to stop it fully....
Lol...dont worry about it
Lol...dont worry about it Tommar.....thats just my life at the moment......
It is an order thing, it is an "I need things sorted now" kinda thing.....there has been that much unrest and hassle that I just want some smooth running happening....
Ive never really been too fussed about his weed smoking, he is off and on with it mostly....stops for months and months then starts again for a bit.....his gambling was a massive problem, but he got through that....we got through that and that was just over 12 months ago free....he admitted to his cocaine problem when I was 13 weeks pregnant...Im 28 weeks now, and he has had one relapse, so 14 weeks clean........its not been easy!