Completely lost with what I should do
So at this point I'm completely lost with what I should do about my current situation...I have two kids (15 and 13) that I share custody of with my ex-wife (divorced 5 years ago) who are really solid kids. Although I know they're not perfect, my two kids really are excellent kids, well mannered, easy going, do great in school, etc. I couldn't be prouder of them.
The issue lies in the fact that we recently sold our home to move into my girlfriends house. We made the decision to move to her home/area because she has a severely handicapped child who needs services that are readily available in her area (24/7 nursing care). Besides the handicapped child she also has two other children. Both of these other children have behavioral issues, one of them actually has severe behavioral issues which push everyone he comes into contact with to the brink of madness..I absolutely dread the weekends that we are all home together and my kids have echoed the same feelings. We share the same custody schedule and at the end of the weekends I'm ready to break down and cry...Its horrible.
My girlfriend does try to take control of them and punish them but its like they've grown resilient to being punished and just keep on until everyone is up in arms. On top of that, her relationship with her ex is complete crap. He rarely pays her child support, never pays for his half of sports, doctors appointments, etc. He rarely punishes them and tries to just be the fun dad. Because of her relationship with him and also her frivolous spending habits her financial position is horrendous (tons of credit card debit, student loans, etc.). We are complete opposites when it comes to finances.
Right now I feel like our relationship is on the verge of exploding because of all the issues and drama that her and her kids bring to the table. I don't know if I should keep up with this or if I should take the leap and move on and just raise my kids as I had been prior to meeting her. I really cant imagine another 10 plus years of this and I honestly feel as though my kids will eventually say enough is enough and choose to live with their mother full-time (this would absolutely kill me).