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Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 10:13am

So, as many of you know, the only way DH & I are able to keep up with skids are by watching their Myspace & Facebook pages. SD13 posted new pics this morning. Her update: "OMG! Snakebites go pop! pop! My mama took me yesterday & I got my snakebites!"

Yep. She has 2 rings through her bottom lip.

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Submitted by jeaniebean on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 10:19am

:jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop:

see THIS is the kind of thing that leads to stripping.not a haircut and some lip gloss as some other people seem to think.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 10:27am

Don't get me wrong. I have no issues with someone (an adult) choosing to pierce or tattoo...whatever. I have a tattoo myself, & I love it! I was an adult when I got it. I was old enough to have been in the work-force, through a few different jobs/interviews. I was old enough to understand that not everyone is willing to accept these things. I was old enough to determine that it would be in my personal best interest to get it where it doesn't have to be seen. I was old enough to understand that it's a permanent choice. BM has tattoos & piercings everywhere (CrustyBits), however, has never dealt with having a job or dealing with the world outside of her bubble. It bothers me that she let SD get her lip pierced at 13. It bothers me that at 13 years old, her "About Me" is "I am fascinated by tattoos & piercings". I guess what really bothers me is how hard she is trying to be like her mom, & how much her mom is trying to make her be like her.

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Submitted by starfish on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 10:29am

maybe after that heals, momma can take her to go get a brand new tramp stamp just in time for summer........

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Submitted by overmyhead on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 10:52am

That sucks Stormabruin:

You must feel so helpless......sometimes I think we are better off not knowing if there is nothing we can do about it.BM let SS get one of those large ear piercings at 10!She also is covered in Tatoos....maybe your BM are related.....lol.

I just asked BM to have SS take the comment off of FB that he hates his dad and wants to punch him in the face. She accused me of "lurking" his FB page. What the hell else are we supposed to do? If thats a bad thing, then I guess we all "lurk" on facebook....I mean, isn't that what the hell its for? I guess when I check up on old friends, and family to see how they are doing, I am LURKING.....grrrrrr......

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Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 11:01am

It does suck to feel helpless. I haven't mentioned it to DH. I know what will happen. He doesn't like piercings or tattoos anyway, but to have it on his 13-year old daughter...he'll feel sick about it, & he'll wish he didn't know, & he'll change the subject to try to forget about it. Then, I'll feel like crap for bringing him down knowing good & well we can't change it anyway.

I still haven't mentioned her pic folder full of BM's pics with title mentioning how great BM is & how much me & DH suck.

DH doesn't care to see skids profiles. I check them daily. Maybe I shouldn't, & by now I know what I'm setting myself up for every day as I sign in. I just miss them & want to keep up with what's happening in their lives.

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Submitted by overmyhead on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 11:25am

It is probably better that you don't mention it. When kids that age, or any unreasonable person for that matter, are confronted with their own wrong doing, it usually just pushes them further away. They don't want to feel guilty on top of everything else! They like to reserve all blame for the two of you. Forcing them to witness what they did, just gives them another excuse to fault you.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 1:21pm

Funny, DH checked his daughter's page at 10pm she was online on a school night when two days before DH went to school and found out she had tons of assignments not turned in...he called her and BM claimed she wasn't home...within seconds she had F4)#€you DAD! Stop looking at my page! And DH called BM and she never answered the phone...what a nice young lady at 15...approved by BM of course...needless to say his sympathy when she asked for extra money for clothes was NONE!

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Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 11:25am

That's the thing. They're permanent! BM doesn't care because they all love & accept each other. I love & accept the skids too. I love SD even with holes in her face. Thing is, she hasn't experienced life outside of BM's bubble world where whatever you want to do is acceptable. The world isn't full of unconditional love. So, what happens when SD has to enter the real world where not everyone is accepting & coddling & loving? I'm not saying SD should make her choices based on what other people think of her, but I do think she needs to wait until she's old enough & mature enough to understand that not everyone will think it's cool that she has holes in her face, & I do think she needs to wait until she understands the ridicule that she will get from other people. THEN, she can decide whether or not it's something she wants bad enough to go ahead & do it. At 13 I thought it was cool to have my bangs ratted as high as I could make them stand. THANK GOD that wasn't a permanent choice!!! Biggrin

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Submitted by WMKY on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 11:50am

Ummm, what?! I'm 26 and have 4 tattoos. My mom knows about two of them and she only know about one of THOSE because my sister has a big mouth.

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Submitted by Smonster on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 11:53am

ow ow ow ow ow that has GOT to be sore. I think I was still making mud pies at 13. :jawdrop:

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Submitted by overmyhead on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 11:56am

What is with unstable BM's and wanting their kids to mature so fast?Are they trying to been looked upon as "cool" with their own kids...? I think they have a need to have their kids worship them in some twisted way, to fill the void they have inside themselves......so sad.......and disturbing.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 12:09pm

BM is disturbingly unstable & quite frankly off her rocker in every aspect of life. She is in no way independent or self-sustaining. She is completely incapable of participating in a successful relationship. She hurt her kids when they were very young, & I think she's so desparate to feel loved that she accepts every demand & wish from them. I believe she knows she'll never find a man who will be able to love her & respect her, because a DECENT man wants a DECENT woman...not a woman with 2 kids that he has to carry & support because she won't. She's very much like an entitled teenager. She seems to believe the world owes her everything because she had a hard life. I have yet to meet ANYONE who hasn't had a hard life in one way or another. IT'S LIFE! If you can't be a friend, you can't expect people to be your friend. Her mother carries her when she doesn't have a man in her life. Of course, her mother is the same way. They all live on BM's step-dad's money.

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Submitted by Chavez on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 11:57am

My SD is about that age. If she showed up at our house with her face pierced I really think he would jerk them out. Yuck.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 4:02pm

My stepdaughter (who had just turned 13) called her dad around Christmas and asked was it ok for her to get a Monroe piercing(right above her top lip.) He told her no, she was much too young, and we though that was it. Later that night, she sends my daughter who is also 13 a picture of herself with a giant silver ball that looked like a booger on her face. Of course, all DH said was "well, I can't control what she does." You know, if you can't parent in bad times, why should you parent in good times, i.e. Christmas presents, birthday presents, vacations...?

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Submitted by MsPerception on Fri, 05/21/2010 - 12:42pm

:jawdrop: and to think I was chastised by biodummy when the 16yr old pierced her own ears the second time (first time we took her she was 8yrs old) at age 12 I think. Even in my own house unless I follow them around literally right behind them 24/7 what do you do? NOw, a parent making a conscience decision to take them and have that stuff done, well.........even my 16yr old thinks her 12yr old friend with the belly-ring is tooo young to have it.

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Submitted by dguiwh2334 on Mon, 05/24/2010 - 11:52am

Wow.. Well I have to say, that's appauling! I do have tattoos (guilty) but I got them after the age of 18! And all of them are unvisible or able to cover, so I can have a professional career.. I remember when I was 17 (I lived with my aunt) I asked her if I could get my lip pierced (my fad for the moment lol) and she said, "yea if u want to find somwhere else to live when u get home :)" lol, I didn't get it, thanks auntie! I sooo wouldn't let a 13 year old do this.. And this is a bit off track I guess, but for the dads that let BM control everything in their kids lives, NOT right! I know that if skids came home at that age with anything pierced, it would be prementaly removed when they walked thru the door!!

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 05/24/2010 - 11:59am

I have a tattoo myself, & I like it. I got it when I was 25, & if I have my way, my mother will never know. LOL! Thing is, I was a grown up when I made that choice. When she's grown, if she were to choose to have piercings in her face, it's up to her. My issue is she's 13. Like I posted above, At 13 I thought it was cool to have my bangs ratted as high as I could make them stand. THANK GOD that wasn't a permanent choice!!! Biggrin

I'm not saying when she's 34 she'll regret it, but what if she does? She's left with permanent holes in her face because her mom wanted to feel like a cool hip parent?

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 05/24/2010 - 1:22pm

LOL! Well, you were an adult when you made your choice. You can tell him he has to be an adult before he makes his choice too! Smile