So, we'd planned to have Christmas Eve Dinner...DH, myself, his mom & step-dad, & his sister & her 2 kids, as it has been for the last 4 years. I was kind of looking forward to it being that way, for the first time since the kids cut DH out of their lives. We've finally managed to figure out how to live life happy, just the two of us & this would've been the first year of being able to see around the absence of his kids & really just be able to enjoy the company of those who genuinely want to celebrate with us.

That said, Christmas ended up being great for us.

SS called the night before Christmas Eve & said him & SD & SS's girlfriend wanted to come have Christmas Eve Dinner with us & DH's family. Well, at first it was him & his gf & he was trying to talk SD into coming along. She agreed to come if we agreed not to ask her about school. I guess with the shit going on between DH & BM she doesn't want to end up saying something that will get BM in trouble. Cool. She manages to make her own anyway. She has criminal court day after tomorrow.

So, the 3 of them came. This is the first visit with SD since Christmas of 2007. I was nervous. DH was nervous & I'm pretty sure SD was nervous. She talked & laughed & she seemed good making conversation in the car. We all had a great time at dinner (SS's gf being the exception). SD posted on her FB that evening that she had a great time & was so glad she came, & that she didn't realize how much she missed our side of the family.

SS's gf bitched the ENTIRE time about not feeling good & didn't touch a piece of food. She complained about her eyes hurting & being dry. She was wearing some fucked up colored contacts...so take the fuckers out. Then she was tired & achey. I offered her ibuprofen, aspirin, eye drops, etc, & she declined it all. Fine.

SS was texting back & forth with BM's mom about transportation...when & where to meet afterward. They got to laughing about how instead of saying, "I don't see well after dark" she says, "You know Nanny doesn't see well after dark". SS's gf said, "You should tell her we be hangin' & we'll get back at her when we good & ready" & laughed. DH joined in & said, "Just tell her Yo, yo, yo Nanny..." & I have no idea what he followed it with. It was the Yo, yo, yo that triggered the nastiest expression from SS's gf & she looked at DH & said, "Uh, excuse me. Was that a racial slur?"

Nice. Of course, DH wasn't about to let it slide or laugh it off. He looked her dead in the eye & said, "Let me make this clear. If I were a racist, you wouldn't be here, celebrating Christmas with me & my family. If you intend to take a stand against racism, I recommend you start somewhere other than trying to coin the phrase "Yo, yo, yo" as being a racial phrase. It's ignorant speak & I don't believe any respectable person would appreciate you trying to claim it as their speak. Third, you want to accuse me of being a racist as you sit here with my family, but you won't share with your family that you're dating my son because he's white??? You've got a ways to go on your endeavor sweetie. You can't fight racism being a racist yourself."

Man, it flowed with no stop. All I saw coming from that was ugly, but SS jumped right in & said, "Gf, don't be like that. If me or SD said that you'd have laughed with us". She went back to her hateful miserable quiet place with her head on the table & we went right back to our joy & celebration.

The night finished good.

I checked SS gf's FB when I came back to work last Tuesday & saw where she posted, "First Christmas in...ever, really. Didnt get a lot, but oh well. There's starving children in Africa. Mums coming over later..". Okay, so it turns out her family doesn't celebrate Christmas, so why would she expect to get ANYthing for it? Why not be glad to get what she got. We gave her a $25 gift card to the movies. I know she got hoodies & a hat she wanted. She got a new purse she'd been wanting & new pair of boots. They were talking about it in the car on the way to dinner. They all knew what they were getting & wrapped most of it themselves. So, how about "I'm thankful that even though I don't celebrate Christmas, my boyfriend's family thought of me & included me in their celebrations" or something a little less bitchy & entitled. She also posted more about pregnancy "kicking her ass". I said something to DH & he said he needed to say something to SS about it. He told SS we were checking FB to see if gf posted anything about dinner with us & said we'd seen the pregnancy comments then. SS denies her being pregnant & said she put that on there to get under some other girl's skin. I pointed out to DH that her profile is public. ANYone can see it, so it isn't something just for that girl. gf is corresponding with multiple people on there...friends, schoolmates, mother's of friends, etc about her pregnancy. I can't help but believe there is something to it. But...whatever.

SS was wanting him & gf to spend Friday night with us last weekend. I don't like the idea of her being in my house. One, she's underage & the last thing we need is for the cops to show up (likely tipped off by BM) to find her with DH's adult son. Two, I don't like her. She's a miserable bitch with a bad attitude & I don't want her in my house.

We are baffled with the pregnancy thing, but DH has done his part to be informed. He's asked as clearly as possible & SS denies it without doubt. I explained to DH that of course, it would be best if she is not pregnant. A child in this situation would be a disaster. However, the idea of her creating a story about it & starting such a rumor about herself on a public social networking site is dreadful. One, it puts SS in a bad spot, being he is an adult & she is underage. Two, this girl will paint herself into a story about being pregnant at 16 to under some other skin??? She is a disaster for herself, & will likely be for anyone who gets involved with her. She is the type of girl who if SS breaks up with her, she'll cry pregnant to keep him holding on. She'll threaten to keep the child away from him & turn him wrong-side out only to discover there never was a baby in the first place.

Life is dramatic enough as it is. Someone who needs to create more is trouble.

As thin as it may be, there is a silver lining. SS is a legal adult, so whatever he lands himself in at this point is his to own all by himself.