why should I make him feel like he counts when he just craps on me?
SS15 is so rude to me and then still expects me to include him in my "affections" like I do with my own children. The other day he said to dh, how come her boys count to her but not me?" I have been trying to disengage gracefully but he drives me nuts so then I blow it by snapping at him. Tonight I got home late with my one meal of groceries and he jumps up to see what I bought. I said "I don't need any help making supper (in other words get out of the kitchen) and he slammed down his remote and went to bed. After me and my boys ate he came down and scarfed the rest of the dinner leaving nothing for DH. He didn't take his plate into the sink NOR did he thank me for dinner like my boys always do. "No wonder it feels like you don't count ss15, you are so ungrateful and treat me like a peace of crap".
I just wish I had better tools to dealing with teen boys that are not my own. Any suggestions on how to make this kid feel like he's mine without it making me have to extend my arm further and my bank book open wider for this ungrateful brat???