disengaging from stepdog is not working
So we talk about disengaging from skids, well I am also trying hard to disengage from sdog and it's not working. I have not fed the dog for 3 days, not watered him, not brushed him or bathed his lately and guess what, that dog is hungry, matted and stinks. Last evening I was telling dh to brush him and take care of his orphan annie dog. I am threatening to call him "Annie" now just to get my point across.
I know we all shout about how inhumane it is to neglect animals, and maybe I should feed him, but this has gotten to the point where I am ready to walk out on my marriage not b/c of the skid but b/c of the sdog. I do not like this dog, he is a shihtzu and has a very posessive attitude about dh and thinks he is the prince of the house, he is HIGH maintainance like all toy dogs and yet dh has never once helped with his hair care, I always either cut the hair or pay to have it cut once I canNOT stand looking at the pathetic animal anymore.
My mom was a wise woman, she always said dogs belong outside and toy dogs don't belong in her home. She stood her ground and no one questioned her wisdom and yet here I am having to deal with a little shit in my home and hating it so much I am ready to end my marriage over this.
The worst is when dh says that me and the dog are the only two live things that make him happy in life. He puts me on equal level to that freakin dog. I usually get up and walk away when he says that.
So what I'd really like to know is what would any of you do if your spouse was so attached to their pet and you could not stand it at all, how do you deal??????