Just a brief update: STBXH announced yesterday (Sunday) morning as we were taking the 1st load of the day to STBX's new apartment that...

SSnow21 is moving into the new apartment too! 

STBXH has received advice from a "bro" to get an attorney & file 1st so he can juice my retirement. But I could make all this go away if I'd just stay with him & try to work it out. We could buy a house together. 

That b.s. had me going, "He just f*cking jumped the shark." 

There was more, but it was in general interesting to see him rotate through the playbook while observing his casting himself as the victim. From mamy different angles. 

It sucks so. Much. Energy.

No more enduring skid holidays in my future. 

...  peace & calm, as DH agreed to move out temporarily. No mantrums, love-bombing, or daily infomercials on newly-purchased expensive stuff (specific outdoor/sport activity equipment & gear, think REI on steroids). No anxiety counting down until DH comes home, because he's not here. Rented a place from his friend, temporary but at least he's gone. 

Those of you who have read my blogs & forum posts know my DH is a bit of a piece of work. Without detailing (=exhausted & it's after 11:00pm), after an escalation and DH seeking counsel of some true-blue Friends in the best sense of the word, he is going to find a place to move to & "take a break" because it's best for me. 

These friends, some of the few people on the planet DH respects (I do too, dear friends), told DH he needs to move out and give me a break.