Last night was a back to school night for SD5. When SD started kindergarten this year, I went online and printed off all the calendars and stuff because I knew that BM wouldn't tell us when something was going on. I knew this back to school night was going on, so I told my fiance that since we have the skids that night it looked like we were going to be the ones taking SD there and attending it. No big deal, right?

BM calls DF at about 3pm and says that she's going to pick up SD to take her to this thing. Okay, again, no big deal.

2 minutes later she calls him back and says, "Forget about it. I have something else that just came up so I won't be taking her." So DF says, "Okay, we were already planning to go anyway so that's just fine." Trigger word = "WE"...meaning ME and fiance.

BM blew up, saying she's the "parent" and that if she doesn't go and we go that it will make her look bad - yes, she indeed is the parent, who said she wasn't? She's the one who backed out! It is always BM backing out of her parental responsibilities, and leaving us to care for her child (that isn't even my fiance's child) and she wants to pull the whole she's the parent crap? THEN BE A FREAKING PARENT!!!

THEN BM says to DF, "How did you even know about the back to school night thing anyway?" This in itself shows you that BM is going to try to hide things from us so we can't be involved. She's such a MANIPULATER/USER. DF explained that we had gone online and printed off the school calendars. Then she said she couldn't talk anymore and would call him later.

Right at 5pm she called him and started arguing with him again. DF actually ended up laughing at her (which of course makes her more mad) because she didn't even have anything to argue about. She sure changed her tune though and didn't mention the whole "I'm the parent" thing again because she knows that if she uses that line that we might just tell her to keep her daughter then since we aren't obligated to do it...and then that would cut into her precious free time. DF told her that it's ridiculous for her to be mad about anything because if she really wanted to have control over the situation then she could just come and pick up SD and take her like she had originally planned. But of course, BM already made plans, so that was completely out of the question. BM's friends are WAY more important than her daughter.

Maybe it's my pregnancy hormones but increasingly, I've wanted to just grab the phone and give her a piece of my mind! I know that wouldn't be the best thing but it is SOOOO tempting. I think I'll start a poll off of this tangent...