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SS13 stole BD6 candy...again!

steppingsucks's picture

It's been a long time since I've blogged. There have been ups and downs but I'm still with DH and SS13. I have a beautiful BD6 now which makes things better, and my BS19 has moved out and is on his own now with a great job.

So our latest drama with SS is that he's once again stolen BD's candy, this time from the St. Patrick's Day Parade. He's stolen her and BS's Easter candy and much much more over the years. Luckily he was at BM's this year for Easter so we had a chance to hide it. But that's what pisses me off. Why should she have to? It's the first thing she thinks when she gets candy..."I have to hide it so SS doesn't get it". How sad!

I finally bought SS an under the bed lockable chest for her to keep her loved items in but it just posses me off that she has to live with SS being a thief.

Whenever I talk to DH about what he's going to do about it, I get the standard "I don't know!". What a mess! Time to disengage with my daughter by my side.

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steppingsucks's picture

Yes, BD is ours. And SS is a boy and my stepson so that's what SS is for. What is DD?

Regardless I WISH there was a consequence and fought with DH about it all week before SS13 returned to no avail. So I bought a safe for my BD6, told him that what he did was crap, and that's all I could do without the support of DH.

It's not about stealing candy, it's about him stealing whatever he wants that isn't his. This is a continual fight that has no end.

steppingsucks's picture

@granny goose: I ask him that exact same question and what his plan is to deal with it. His constant answer? "I don't know!" Believe me, I've said it all.

He mostly steals candy and snacks. He used to steal other items from my son before he moved out, including something that meant a lot to BS19. I'm the past DH may give small consequences, like having to pay for the item, but now that he's done it so many times over the years DH doesn't see the point. That's where we completely disagree and that's why we fight about it. I think he needs greater consequences and needs to get help for his habitual lying and stealing. But as a stepmom, I don't have any rights to set that stuff up in my state. That's why I came here to vent. My only option is to protect my BD6 by giving her a tool to protect her items. I'm also disengaging from SS13 (almost 14 btw).

notasm3's picture

I honestly do not know how to handle it. I would go bat shit crazy on the little ahole. And probably say and do things that would be over the top and totally inappropriate.

I am more than capable of cutting someone off at the knees verbally. And that is not always a good thing. I can make a person rue the day that they were born - verbally.

The reason that I told my DH to keep SS31 away from me (after his home invasion) was that I knew that I would truly hit below the belt. Not that he didn't deserve it - I but really did not want to sink to that level.

steppingsucks's picture

Exactly! I'm so absolutely pissed. He's almost 14 so I'm just counting down the days until he's out of here. It really makes you lose a lot of respect for your DH, I'm sure you know.

My problem is that he's a minor so I'd be the one in trouble if I put a foot up his ass like I feel like I want to. And of course DH and BM would blame me.

I did have a good talk with BD6 (almost 7) today that he's a thief, that's not ok, and I don't want her to think that I think it is. At this point I'm wondering why I'm staying here.