Update: Helping teen stepdaughter adjust here
Update to my previous blog post.
SD sees the Christian school as punishment. It's a huge hurdle in working towards establishing any kind of trust or cooperation with her. But her father sees it as a last chance effort to put her in a more protective supervised environment where she can turn her academics around.
SD was getting involved with older teens, she craved their attention so much to the point where she was allowing herself to be sexually exploited. She looks older than 15, and she would lie to boys saying she's anywhere from 17 to 19 years old. DH took her phone away because she was using online dating sites pretending to be older. She's not allowed to have a phone now, and she is only allowed Internet access on our family room computer which has parental blocking software.
DH has taken the lead, but when he's at work, then it falls on me to deal with her. I'm trying to be there for her, listen to her, and empathize as best I know how. It's difficult when she feels I'm just here to enforce her father's rules.
I've asked her about counseling and she resists anytime I bring it up. She thinks whatever she tells them will be used by us as more of a reason to restrict her freedom. Her father thinks she will eventually start to soften up towards counseling at the school because they are aware of her situation and are willing to work with her.
Up to this point from everything I've observed, I think she's going to really resent her father initially, but I'm hoping she will calm down as time goes on. School is starting soon and she throws a fit about it every time the subject comes up.