SD and BM 'scrounging' for money again...
SD20 is on birth control pills. 3 months ago or so, we received a bill for her prescription twice (she was on DH's insurance until recently). She finally paid it. So a bill came in the mail again on Thursday from the mail order pharmacy for SD20's pills. This is the 2nd bill we've received for this particular prescription. She never seems to have the money to pay for this, and was not working all summer until about 3 weeks ago (her choice). Mind you, it's only the deductible amount, not the full amount of the prescription. Anyone who knows me knows that I've been thru bankruptcy court in 2003. I swore to myself that that would NEVER happen again. I don't want any phone calls, letters in the mail, no harrassment regarding payments of any kind. When a bill comes in the mail, it is paid IMMEDIATELY.
So I put the bill in the mail addressed to her home. It arrived on Saturday. Saturday night, DH received a phone call from BM. He, in his lack of judgement, answered the call. She proceeds to BITCH him out (I can hear her thru the cell phone) because I sent the bill. Yes, it wasn't the fact that her daughter didn't pay the bill or that she is irresponsible, but just the fact that the envelope had MY writing on it. OMG, the drama! The call went on for about 5 minutes, all the while he is just listening and every now and again throwing in an "uh-huh". HELLO??? How about hanging the phone up?? Or telling her and her daughter to just pay the freaking bill??? Then they won't have to see the bill again!
BM tells DH that HE should pay it because SD doesn't have the money. Um, the last time I checked, neigher of us is on birth control. The last time I checked, there was no law against SD getting a job and paying her own bills! DH rallied for SD telling me that she 'had to pay her car insurance' and blah, blah, blah. Excuse me, she lives with BM and the only bills she has is her prescription, gas, car insurance. And again, she could have GOTTEN A JOB FOR THE SUMMER!
Yesterday, he called BM back and told her that his relationship with his daughter is his business, and that I'm his 'current wife' (huh? current? who's next?), and that she's not to call and bitch him out again. Great for DH, but judging from the last time something like this happened, he's due to be on the phone with her again this morning appologizing for yelling at her on the phone yesterday.
I'm just at my wits end. Our dishwasher is broken and we can't afford to even get a new one right now. I returned a handbag that I bought last weekend because we just don't have the money right now. But yeah, let's pay for birth control pills! So, I broke down and paid the bill. $80. I almost regret it because it's exactly what BM and SD wanted, and how is that going to teach either of them anything?? But it's done. So I told DH that it should come out of her Christmas money this year.
Is that wrong? Did I do the right thing? Or should I just have let her figure out her own way of paying her bill? Dh said that SD will cut his hair for him to 'work it off', but that just means that I have to deal with her coming over here more often. Besides, WE NEED THE MONEY. It's always an issue of money with these 2 women and I'm just sick of it. SD's attitude is irritating, but I can handle it cuz she only visits maybe every 2 months (thank goodness), and BM and I have never spoken - again, thank goodness.
(sorry about the rambling...)