My Stepmom&Wife Situation
I’m new to Steptalk, but I’m hoping this blog will allow me to release what I have bottled up. The truth of my situation is...
1. Married the love of my life. Plus!
2. He has two wonderful children. Plus!
3. I’m a fantastic stepmom & they love me. Plus!
4. The BM is a money hungry, geezer gold diggin, fake titty wearin, cake facin, teenage clothing wearing, ditsy dumb, and finally a word that rhymes with bunt, a bunt! Awe I feel so much better now.
This is the straight truth plain and simple.
My husband never gets to see his children and when he does the BM is always trying to cut his time short or keep them on his time or she is around due to sporting events. Why? Cause sports are on the weekends. She likes to stand right next to my husband during sports wearing slutty pants/short shorts and revealing shirts showing her fake boobs and fake self. She will stand along the sporting fence and stick her ass out right next to my husband. Are you kidding me?
I try to take a video of one of the kids playing and she talks or walks over into my video every single time trying to ruin my video. The children love playing with me which is awesome, but going to these events where I have to deal with this annoyance is ridiculous. I want to watch the children play sports, but I’m so sick of dealing with her garbage. I just keep telling myself, “It’s for the children, It’s for the children.” That is how I survive. The hardest thing for me is that I have to hold my tongue. Again, “It’s for the children.” My husband knows how hard it is for me to hold my tongue. I just don’t understand how a mother can dress so inappropriately and in public. Then have the audacity to come stand next to my husband and I. I wonder, “where is her husband?” He hasn’t come to one event. By the way the man is almost double her age and is somewhat wealthy. He’s not a millionaire, but is doing well for himself. It makes sense though because he’s old.
Anyways, the most ridiculous part of this truth is that my husband still pays her unjustified amounts of CS. The CS per month is more than our rent and electric combined. We are barely paying our bills. Meanwhile the children and the BM live in a mansion on a golf course, drive new vehicles, and travel all the time (not ever with the children). The children tell us they want new shoes and we say to tell their BM bc that is what CS is for and she should buy them clothes and shoes. The children tell us that she goes shopping all the time and she doesn’t have any money. Are you kidding me? So we try to buy the children clothes and shoes when we can afford it. I love taking care of the children and buying them food and clothes and shoes, but cmon that is why the government decided to force CS upon the noncustodial parent. Correct? If the government cannot make sure that the money is being used on the child then I don’t believe in people paying CS. I don’t! There should be record of what the money is going towards and how it’s spent.
Another issue bothering me is that when my husband and I pick up the children they are always hungry. We ask them, “what did y’all eat today?” The children respond, “nothing! We didn’t have time.” I respond, “what do you mean that you didn’t have time?” Child responds, “ we were running around everywhere place to place and we didn’t have time.” It’s past 3 o’clock! My husband and I are not happy about this and taught the children about how important it is to eat and that eating is a priority. We told them to tell anyone around that they are hungry and they must get food because food is a priority. How can the BM do this to her own children. It’s just sad. The BM is that selfish. Then, while we have the children she is calling and texting all through out the weekend. She asks, “What are you doing?” “Where are you?” “Do you love me? You don’t ever remember to call me. Try to remember to call me.” We literally have them 4-6 days a month and the days are spaced out. She can’t stand when we have the children. Finding peace in this situation is hard. The children are worth it though, so I will continue to hold my tongue. For the children, my husband, and to continue being an adult and a great stepmom I will put up with the nonsense. I wish someone would hand her a pair of actual pants or outfit that says mother though. I can hope for that right?
I feel better now. It’s nice to finally get this out. Thank you for listening to my situation.