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Follow up - Absolutely shitty bday.
Well, I shouldn't be surprised, should I?
Saw this one coming..
This weekend we didn't have any kids and were supposed to go out to dinner Saturday night.. I looked at the finances and made the decision that going to my favorite place was not the best idea as it would cost about $130 - and at Christmas with funds so tight, we can just go somewhere less expensive..
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Opinion - would you want to celebrate your birthday with people who don't care?
My birthday is coming up...
Since things are the way they are with the skids, I really don't want to celebrate any of it with them.. they don't care, so why would I want them around to do any celebrating?
They were jerks at my daughters bday.. it was a small family party and sk12 tried to ruin it by doing annoying shit after he was told not to and then tried to pick a fight with her because "it wasn't her birthday" because she asked him to please stop what he was doing because it was her birthday - uh, we celebrated it the day before since her bday fell on a Monday..
Holiday Schedule BM Drama.. Do we force the court ordered schedule?
She's at it again...
BM bailed and gave us full custody of ss's last May. Since then, she has bailed on just about everything else as well.
When we went to court, we specifically requested a deviation to the normally court ordered holiday schedule so that we could have SS's and my daughter together for all the holidays. (It normally gives mom's even years and dads odd years and since both DH and I are from the same county, we would have our kids on opposite years)... so we asked for it to be flipped on BM's end so DH and I would be on the same schedule.
Lol... this made me giggle.. (how would you take it?)
Last night we had ss12's Christmas concert..
How many times have you (step-parents) heard "well, just kill them with kindness and they will come around"...?
I hate that phrase..
Abso-freaking-loutly hate it!
My ss's and I do not like each other.
They have their reasons, I have mine..
Long story short.. I am constantly being told to "kill him with kindness and he will learn to like you" (with regards to ss12)... WTF? Are you serious? How can I kill someone with kindness when they act like this kid? I don't see anything that makes me all warm and fuzzy when I look at him and how he acts... I don't even want to be in the same room as him...
Should I be upset?
Well, last week was tough..
Had a conversation with my daughter regarding her kitty that has cancer and together we made the painful decision to put him down.
Thursday was the day. I got home from work and her and I snuggled with him and gave him treats.. to say this was heartbreaking was an understatement.
DH was going drive us to the appointment and we had to drop off sk15 at basketball on the way.. sk12 wanted to stay home and play video games.
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And now for his latest trick.. bio's and steps feel free to comment on this one..
Good lord!
It never, and I mean never ends with this kid!
Now he is blatantly making fun of his father when he tells him to do something or whatever..
Seriously - here is an example:
This morning, as usual, sk12 & sk15 are in the living room before school zombie out on ipads.
DH yells down the steps "____ come up and make you bed" - this is directed at sk12 who needs reminded of everything every day. (and when I say everything - it's the things he doesn't like to do or rules he just ignores).
Well, at least now sk12 is saying it out loud - "I don't like you"... advice on this, please?
Well, it's no secret sk12 and I aren't bff's..
We tried to talk to him a few weeks ago to get it all out.. it was a disaster that left me rattled and still with no closure. Just the same elephant in the room that we all ignore..
Dh and I tried something new with regards to SS12 and his issues - it works and thought I'd share!
So this weekend, we changed things up - tried a new tactic with regards to SS12's antics.
By antics, I mean his trying to draw us into conflict with his complaining or trying to manipulate/control the vibe of our home.
Friday night SS12 posted up in his usual spot in the living room.. he was there pretty much since school let out and had control of the TV.
Wow... DH and I tried yet again to have heart to heart with ss12.. FAIL!
Not sure how many times I need to tell DH this kid needs mental help asap - he is a ticking time bomb..
Yesterday morning.. I come downstairs and say hey to the skids, have a good day at school and remind them to make their beds (it's a house rule DH established).