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stepmomof3's picture

Ah! Where to begin? No need to start from the beginning, it will take way too long. This is a current weekend with the SKids, but I have lucked out and only have one instead of all 3. My SD wanted to go to a b-day party this weekend. And the oldest SS left a message on our voicemail claiming to be sick, in a all too fake sick voice. He just doesn't like to come because he has little freedom here compared to the total control he has at his BM's.

This feels good already. Just a nice release of anger and frustration and I don't have to worry about offending anyone.

My two oldest Skids have been insanely disrespectful the past couple months. I think my husband just blocks it out, like most men do when something hurts their feelings.

Oldest SS has pulled the lying game 2-3 times in the past 3 months to get out of coming here. I know it hurts my husband SO much. He is a very good Father to his children. He makes sure he spends good quality time with them, in the small time frame he is allowed. It's got to be hard enough stretching yourself thin every other weekend with 3 kids. When he already has a 2 year old and a wife on a regular basis.
SD came to live with us last year. We had custodial parent changed in court and everything. For the three years prior she claimed semi-abusive things were happening in her BM's home on a regular basis. We believed her because she had never given us a reason to doubt her. When BM finally gave in and let her come to live with us, none of the "abuse" had to be brought up. 9 months after she started living with us, the sh*t finally hit the fan with her and my husband. The few months leading up to this had been tough. She suddenly began being very defiant and full of attitude. My husband had enough. He asked her if she wanted to go back to her BM's (because he had heard the other skids mention that she wanted to) and she said yes. So it was done. Now of course, 1 1/2 months later she wants to come back. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!

Any who.... I have said enough for my first entry. Feels GREEEEEAAAAATTTTTTT!

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KeeKee's picture

I have had experience with SKs playing one household against the other and it is not pleasant. My own BKs would never dream of doing that to their Dad and I, but then they have been brought up to understand that he and I are a parenting unit, even though we are no longer married ( my kids are 14 and 16). The SKs play one against the other and will go with whichever parent will do what they want at any given time.
You are right, this needs to be nipped in the bud right now or you will always have this havoc to deal with.
Good Luck