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I figured out that I don't have a husband anymore....

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Submitted by StepmomKS on Fri, 12/09/2011 - 9:26am

That's right it finally dawned on me that I dont have a husband any more. When we first got married I thought I had it all, loving husband, great relationship, awesome family...married my best friend!!!

Now I dont have a husband, friend or lover....I have a room mate that spilts the bills with me.

His daughter has managed to take my place as the friend and companion, they hang out together and have long talks,go to dinner, movies and shopping together....we live seperate lives!!

I just need to figure out when I've had my fill of this and move on. I'm starting to notice that because of the lack of attention I get the grass is starting to look greener over on the other side of the proverbial fence, never did I think I would have to look outside my marriage for the attention I need as a woman.

I guess whats holding me back is the memories of what we had....and the hope that by some miricle his eyes will be opened to the lies and trouble that his daughter does and that he will fall on his knees apologizing for the HELL he's put me through!!!

A girl can dream I guess!!!

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Fri, 12/09/2011 - 9:38am

How old is SD because I am worried that in a few years this will happen to me. We own a company and DH is in and out of the office all day. SD has expressed interest in working there one day. I have visions of me sitting home as usual and the two of them going out to lunch and shopping and having all this fun without me Sad

SD is 15 and I have a bad feeling when she graduates high school this will happen and I know I will not be able to handle it and all hell will break loose and this thing will finally come to a head.

I hope it all works out but I have come to realize over the years that the grass is never greener. Years ago I was 21 and engaged to a guy who was great but I was kinda bored. I thought I found greener grass on the other side of the fence. I went thru hell for years. I ended up marrying a drunk, had a baby with him and divorced him. Then I married my husband who I love dearly and feel that he is my soulmate but I hate his daughter. If I could go back before I looked over that fence I would do it in a heartbeat!!

Now I am once again in hell! Damn fences!!

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Submitted by troperh on Fri, 12/09/2011 - 9:56am

StepmomKS, don't jump the fence (so to speak). You'll end up regretting it, and I'm sure you know that. But what I would do is maybe show him what you typed on this site. If that doesn't open his eyes, nothing will. And if it doesn't improve, THEN move on....don't you be the one that ends this with infidelity. That will haunt you the rest of your life and effect your next relationships, if this one doesn't work out.

I totally understand what you're saying....your 1st several lines, describing what your relationship 'was' totally described me and my DH's as well...spot on. Not now....I'm trying to decide if I'm going to go home today or not.....Merry Christmas, huh?

I think we all need more Vitamin D....get out in the sun, or maybe just drink more....cheers! (:

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Submitted by hismineandours on Fri, 12/09/2011 - 10:26am

Sometimes the grass IS greener on the other side, but you know what it is still needs to be mowed on that side too. Basically, any relationship is going to have its stressors and require work. The stepfamily life just has its own unique sort of stressors.