So H went to pick up SS and his 2 step sisters for our weekly mid week night with him. I cooked salisbury steak, mashed potates, corn, and cressent rolls. We ate about 5:45 or 6. Those girls ate more than my H who works physical labor everyday all day and has big appetite at days end. SS ate a lot as well but not as much as the girls.

So we got to church and then take kids swimming after at neighbors pool. When we get in from pool about 9 the girls ask are we going to eat supper. I said well that is what we had before church and they said well we are so hungry. I said well I have made the bed for you all to sleep and we are putting a movie in so I will pop yall some popcorn and I will get yall some chips. They ate 2 bags of popcorn and a whole bag of potato chips. While H was putting the movie in he said that ss and the girls were being like animals cramming the food in afraid the other one would get it. Now ss is typically not like that. So after movie started H calls SS to the living room and ask him what he had to eat that day and he said for breakfast he had choice of rice krispies treat or dry cereal and we asked why dry cereal and he said they were not allowed to have any milk cause it was for his little brother. So H said what about lunch and ss said we had choice of ramen noodles or a hotdog but we could not have both so I chose the ramen noodles. H asked him what else he had and he said nothing we are not allowed anything else and then said you know that bag of BBQ chips yall gave me(memorial weekend) we can't even have those. H asked him was he hungry when he came today and ss said yeah dad look at what I had to eat today. So I look over and tears are rolling down H's face. Now H is rough and tough as they come and can be 100% redneck if provoked, but when it comes to his son it is whole different person. I have never in my life seen a man love his children with the passion that H loves his son. Not to say there are not lots of them I just never seen it. So ss sees the tears and says dad what's wrong and starts hugging him and H tells him I am so sorry son, you should not have to be doing without. SS with his sweet heart just hugs H and tells him he loves him. See when girls not there ss eats and does what he wants. BM buys food and usually tells girls no cause it is ss's food. BM has complained numerous times that the girls eat so much and she hates to share with them...HELLO they are children and you chose to be with their father married or not you accepted a certain amount of responsibilty for them when yall decided to buy a house togther. So the oldest girl who we thought was 14 acutally just turned 13 two weeks ago is good enough to keep all the kids but you can't feed them??? Am I missing something here take the money you saving in child care cause your not paying the oldest and got to discount grocery and buy bread chips snacks and put out each day what they can have do not provide bare minumum to them especially not your own son! Ok so H takes them all back this morning but stops and McDonalds and gets them breakfast and I sent 8bags of cheetos like lunch size, capri suns, and little debbies snacks so they will have something. After dropping them off H was just tore up calls me with that lump in his throat talking how he hated leaving ss there etc. I try to encourage him and smooth it over even though I am as upset as he. So he calls BM's home phone to check on them and the phone can only make outgoing calls now. Well that did it H called BM and said what is wrong with you phone and she said oh uh they are working on it. Then H said well I just wanted to see if the kids ate their breakfast and proceeded to tell her how much they ate and what they told him they were had to eat at her house. He told her that he sent snacks and that it did not work his tail off in the heat everyday to pay her what he pays her and then for his son to do without when he is hungry because they cannot afford to feed all of them. She told him she was not discussing that with him and hung up on him. Now BM acutally makes just $.50 more an hour than H. She has a nice home nothing extravagant but nothing meager either. She drives a 2006 Toyota Sequoia (aka gas guzzler with nice payment.) I make twice what BM makes even with her getting child support and I could not afford that care she has. Anyway so it is not like she cannot do better for the kids she is just giving the bare minimum cause of the girls. I acutally feel sorry for those girls as she is no kind of step mom to them. She complains about them all the time and then makes them clean her house. She very much makes it known that those are her BF's kids and SS and baby brother are hers. BM and BF are not married.

So to end I think H is so upset because he works so hard...over the top workaholic...not a lazy man. Works out in the heat doing physical work daily makes not the best money gives her might near half of it for CS and all she has to offer their son is dry cereal and ramen noodles. I think he was full of all the crap last night and today and had to release his emotions. Should we advise our lawyer about this?