I would like advice on dealing with adult stepchildren. I have been a step-mom for about 6 years now. The children are all grown and out of high school and college. There are no visitations, child support issues, etc. One still asks for money and still has some of her bills paid. I have children of my own. I do not want relationship issues with my stepchildren but I also feel more like an outsider than acknowledged in any way. I am new to all the acronyms (SD, SS, etc).