Grin and Bear it or send an email
DH's and my therapist recommended to me to send all DH'sfamily members an email if I chose not to attend family gatherings like going out to dinner. DH is firm in his belief that precious SD/mini-wife has done her part by sending out an olive branch. Her "olive branch" comes with the condition that I apologize (honestly, at this point the topic is past and old)... So, according to him... it's "up to me" to respond to SD. Guess what? I don't want to respond to SD- I will not discuss the past and don't feel at all ready to be around her. However, he made it very clear how bad it will be if I don't go to family events. I'm choosing to disengage but nope, I will have to pay for whichever path I choose. I never dreamed this to be my life's path when I was younger.