At the office today u pulled some info for two private schools and one charter school. We (DH) realistically can not afford private school for SS so the charter school would be awesome but their is a lottery to get in.

I brought home the application for SS and he immediately asked if the school had football. I asked him what he was looking for in a high school because the private schools were all focused on academics and some did and some did not have sports. I told him this first app was for a college prep school and I coached him on how to approach completing it. Dh discussed the fact that we would go through the enrollment process at a few schools and see what happens but that SS needed to share with bm his desire to attend a private school and mot importantky rhat she woyld fill out any financial aid forms that she us given. SS has a history of telling us one thing, we'll go to bat for him, approach bm, and then when bm brings it up to him, he'll say it doesn't matter and he doesn't really care). I get tired of exerting energy on his behalf as does dh.

SS had his call with bm tonight. After the call he came to tell us that bm said that we were taking her to court for child support and we are taking all of her money so she probably won't have any extra for his education. Dh explained that it was sTate law that both parents provide for their children and that HE wasn't taking her to court, but the child support agency would need to have a judge's order to have her pay her share towards SS. Anyway, SS was afraid we'd be mad. I couldn't understand why he was afraid but dh said that he was pretty sure that bm got angry and started blaming us for taking her money and punting the finger. (note: bm has been absent fr about 7 years of ss's life and now plays mommy EOWe while also claiming poor, low income single mom - but she drives a brand new car, brags to SS about the expensive rims, has her nails done, blah, blah, blah. Deadbeat mom playing the victim to her son.

I really hope she gets nailed for some child support. She lied about her earnings in court, but the child support agency has records of what she actually earns. She has contributed nothing towards this boy since she left when he was 5 and prior tO that she was busy cheating and not being a mom anyway.

I'm just glad that SS is taking the application process seriously, as is dh. Dh is very clear that we can not afford private school for his son. We'll see if bm can help or if he is granted some aid.

Again, he's not the best student and seems to be more interested in being a "famous football player" even though the last time we had him in football he stood on the field and literally pouted and told his dad he didn't like it and didn't want to be there.

Not my kid. Not my problem.

But it is. He lives with me full time and is the oldest child in the house. He's a step brother to my three and he's also half sib to my 6mo dd. he's also my husbands son and his bm takes no interest in him. The boy needs guidance.