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ss16 just doesn't THINK

SteelRose's picture

**VENT** ONLY. lol

Yesterday DH asked ss16 to mow the lawn. We have fruit trees and a lot of fruit is falling right now before we can pick and eat. DH asked me to ask bs15 to pick up the fruit before ss mows and since I was at work and unable to call till 15 minutes after the boys got home to talk to bs, ss had already mowed. But what bugs me most is that this kid simply does not THINK that perhaps rotting fruit is going to gum up the mower and also get all over the yard and attract even more bees and bugs. Plus making it a mess so non of us can walk around the trees right now to pick fruit without getting our shoes sticky, thus tramping it into the house? UHG. It turns out to be my fault OF COURSE b/c I didn't call bs15 on time to have him pick up the fruit. So when dh got home he told bs to go out there anyways and pick up what he could. THAT made me freakin freak out (bs called me and told me he was not going to clean up ss's mess for being a lame brain) and I called dh and laid into him yelling that not only is ss16 not thinking before doing things ( this is certainly not the first chore he's done wrong and without thinking) but then dh asks my son to go out and clean up the mess????? How dare he think that me and bs are always going to clean up after ssons? (the first time ss19 moved out bs18 and I had to literally shovel out his room into the trash can b/c he was so filthy). Eventually I got home and talked to everyone, ss sprayed the mower clean and picked up some of the chunks and bs did do dishes as a chore. Geese it's weird how dh thinks if ss does something how bs has to do something too or it's so unfair. Waaaa, cry me a river, build a bridge and freakin get over it. lol

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simifan's picture

IT always seems that the ones who do things right get rewards by more work because people don't want to deal with the idiots that made the mess in the first place.

stepinafrica's picture

Don't allow your son to be picking up after your SS. Just don't.They are both kids and should have equal responsibility.

SteelRose's picture

Most of the time the boys have separate chores. Once in awhile DH seems to think it's ok for my kids to do the lesser (more menial) part of the chore his kid is doing. Luckily my kids are very smart and know when this is happening and text or call me. Yesterday we set a rule that bs15 only does chores after I get home. DH is not his parent, just like I don't ask ss to do chores when DH is not home, it's called disengagement! Even stepdads need to learn disengagement!