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Extremely tired today

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Submitted by SteelRose on Fri, 09/27/2013 - 7:26pm

I was sick with a terrible PMS day yesterday and so I took today off work to recover and rest. I was really sick Sad Anyways, but we had to go in and deal with some stupid medical issues with the state and finally realized we are only covered til end of next month b/c the affordable care act is going into affect and we'll have to apply for that next month. This is all very stressful for DH with the tail end of cancer, scans, getting port out etc. But of course this again all falls on my shoulders. Then we get home after 3 hours of waiting in a waiting room with screaming kids and stressed out dh and I went to lay down but DH wanted me to think of supper and get some other things done around the house on my day off. We ended up having a big blow out argument. He says since bs18 lives here now and has a job but is too old for cs, he should pay us $100 weekly to live here. I disagree and think bs18 should save what he makes to get his own place. When ss19 lived with us we didn't charge him to live here, he didn't even have a job so not only did he live with us but he hung out all day and played xbox and so on.

What makes me maddest is that our arguments are always about your kids versus my kids. DH always wants to make things fair but when I bring up that I am the sole income for many years he gets pissed and has excuses.

Grrrr, I am just so exhausted today, in pain and tired of supporting all these MEN that are taller then me stronger then me, don't have PMS and menopause. All of them should be paying the effin bills and buying food Sad Not me Sad

That was totally a VENT no need for any advise ;P Thanks for listening

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Fri, 09/27/2013 - 8:07pm

I'm sorry you've had such a tiring stressful couple of days. Maybe you can rest up and pamper yourself a bit tonight. Little things, a long soak, comfy pjs and a good book usually goes a long way in helping me unwind.

Just an aside suggestion about the rent...I charged all my children 18yr old a small rent. Nothing real large (it was more a lesson in adult responsibilities) and then as they moved out to begin their own lives I gave them the 'rent' back. I had saved it for them without them knowing. It taught responsibility and also served to be a 'secret' saving account. It was money put away they couldn't foolishly be tempted to spend on 'stuff'. They of course had their own bills which they paid (health care premiums through their jobs, car insurance blah blah) and pocket spending money and savings accounts in their names they opened at bank. It just turned out that when they were ready to move out they found they not only had their savings account but they had the 'rent' money I had saved for them too.

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Submitted by SteelRose on Fri, 09/27/2013 - 8:12pm

Oh good idea twoviewpoints! Except that DH thinks we can use the money for food. I think he's jealous that bs18 has a job and career training and can stay here and ss19 is jobless and homeless.