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Steamed's picture

I was just reviewing my blog, wow, been two years since I last posted on this forum.

Unfortunately, I feel the need to vent once again, guess who is back in my house?

For two years, I have been able to keep this good for nothing kid (SS, now 22 yrs old) from mooching off of me. He has either been in jail, or living elsewhere in that time frame.

His last stint in jail, I thought I had him blocked. He was no longer able to live with the Grandfather because the GF is very ill, terminal cancer.I refused to move the guns in my house so that he could live there when he got out and told him and wife that he would need to find other arrangements because of the guns. I didn't think that he would be able to live at my house if I had guns in the house. Well apparently this new parole officer he has, didn't have a problem with it ! I couldn't believe it when I came home from work on the day he got out of jail to find him standing in my house.

So now, here we are again. He is living in my house, sleeping on the couch and already we are butting heads. My wife and I are not talking to each other because we are always arguing about him. I can't stand the way he treats me, her and everyone else in the house. She treats him like he is the messiah and can do no wrong.

Some of the things he has done in the last few weeks that have set me off :

- Never flushes the !@#$%^& toilet. Has to be told repeatedly to flush it and then cops off with his attitude when I make him go back to the bathroom to flush the damn toilet.

- Weird rash brought home from jail..., guess what? SCABIES ! Just F@#$ing swell. I know it's not really his fault but he doesn't get the fact that this shit is contagious and act appropriately to keep the rest of us from getting it. I won't go within 5 feet of him and have told my BS (12 years old) to do the same.

- announces one night that he is going to make some cookies. Takes the pre-mixed cookie package that we bought in order to make them for everyone some night, mixes the cookies and puts them on the pan. I walk into the kitchen just in time to see him sticking his finger in his nasty mouth and then swiping it through each one of the uncooked cookies, eating the cookie dough. I told him that he shouldn't be doing that, that no one is going to want to eat the cookies now that he has essentially spit on each one of them. I get attitude and called a "germiphobe". No one but SS and wife will touch the cookies after they are done. So basically he ruined the entire batch of cookies and ate them himself.

- told him several times to find out when his health insurance starts at his new job and when he receives his first paycheck. Finally after the 4th request I get the information. I told him and wife that he needs to start looking at apartments to see what is out there. Of course I get push back from both of them telling me that there is no sense looking until he gets his first paycheck. SS then says that he knows what he needs to do and that he will be looking for an apt near our house when he has the money saved. I tell him that "if you ask me you should be looking for an apt closer to where you are working, not a half hour away, that you will need to drive and pay for gas every day" , SS says, while sitting at my table, eating my food, and while I'm putting gas in his car to get him back and forth to work until he gets his first paycheck..... "I didn't ask you"

- Came home after the first doctor visit in regards to the rash (scabies) that he had and threw his nasty, scabies infected underwear on the kitchen table. Apparently he had to remove them for the doctor and didn't put them back on afterwards. I came home to find them laying on the kitchen table.

I don't even want to go home any more, I'm dreading Christmas, we are supposed to host my entire family at our house this year for dinner, and none of my family can stand him either. I'll be amped up the entire time just waiting for this jerk to start something. My wife and I had an argument about him last night, and now aren't talking to each other....again. It never fails, as soon as he is in the picture, she turns into a different person, and I don't like that person.

So, anyway here I am again, just looking for some confirmation of my feelings, camaraderie and advice from those of you that share my shoes.

Thanks,

Steamed

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Steamed's picture

I like the thought, but logistically I don't think I could make that work in the short amount of time left before christmas. I think I'll take snickersgal's advice and get tooted Wink

Steamed's picture

It's my house, I own it, I'm not leaving, if it comes down to it, he is the one that will be leaving, and if she doesn't like it, she can go too....

Eyes Wide Open's picture

Steamed....

Sorry to hear about your mess. I, like so few on here, understand completely. DH and I share my home, but it was my house, bought and paid for in full, before I ever met him. My late husband and I worked hard for everything we have. And, if push comes to shove, DH and his skank adult kids will be gone before I ever leave here! His name is not on anything related to this place, and he signed a pre-nup. I made it very clear to him that if something should happen to me, this house and everything else I worked for, goes to my daughter. I did that mainly because I know that if he got anything, and then he died, his good for nothing kids would get it.

It is not an ideal situation, but it's the way it is.

In your situation, I would think that you could get the courts to remove SS being as he could be a danger to your bio-children? If he's a convicted felon, and you are the parent of other children in the house, you have a legitimate case for removal. It would get ugly between you and your wife, but it almost sounds like you're at the point of no return anyway. You may want to contact an attorney, specializing in family law, about this.

ddakan's picture

ew, my sd21 has an std because she has to have sex with every boy that talks to her, cystic acne on her butt that required antibiotic, she had lice 3 times which I had to take care of...she was pregnant and forced herself to have a miscarriage.

these kids are sooo irritating. if I thought one of them were coming BACK to my house i would throw a raging fit!!!!!!!!!!!!! my skids are 21 20 and 17. ss17 is headed for jail if he doesn't quit being a loser. he's a big pot smoker, and wow, his parents just don't care.

so sorry you have to deal with all this. sorry any of us do!

hismineandours's picture

Good idea Foxie. I would give the shit 30 days from today and then kick his ass out. I would let your so know that if he is not out then that you are calling the police to have him removed and his probation officer.

Rags's picture

Giving him 30days is enabling his crap and giving the wife mixed messages about her criminal son being in the house. He should go ...... NOW! IMHO.

Rags's picture

I would say ..... PUT HIS ASS BACK IN JAIL!!!!

People that are repeat offenders can't not offend. I would put several video cams in the house and then leave very enticing tidbits where he will take them. Money, a watch, jewelry, a few silver and gold investment coins, etc..... How about a GUN!!! You own them. If he steals one his parole officer will put him away for a very long time.

When he takes them, call the police and give them the video.

End of problem.

If he does not take them then quit putting gas in his vehicle, let he and your wife know that he will follow every rule without being told or he will leave immediately. We have been dealing with my SS-18 and the procrastination in getting a job thing. I finally put my foot down and told him "get a job or get out". He enlisted in the AirForce. Unfortunately my SS's start date has not yet determined but he will be getting a job prior to his AF start date and paying rent. Your SS will not get in to the armed forces with a conviction on his record but he can flip burgers of stand on a street corner with a promotion sign pointing at the nearest housing development.

As long as he gets out, what do you care.

As for your wife, she needs clarity that criminals will not be allowed in your home, even her son.

IMHO of course.

Good luck and best regards,

Either way he is gone.

Steamed's picture

Here's the problem and the main reason that I haven't given him the boot already. His first move, after getting booted from my house has historically been to go to the grandfathers house. Grandfather is also an enabler like my wife, and would not tell SS22 no.

Thats where he went the last time I kicked him out of my house for not following my rules (he was caught smoking in the house, I'm a non-smoker and made it clear to those that smoke they must do it outside). The GF has terminal cancer and is in no condition to have this pos sponging off of him.

I did make a call to his PO and left a message for him to call me, I plan to give him the background on the relationship between me and SS22. The PO he had before going to jail this last time was fully aware of my issues with SS22 and was doing everything he could to keep him from living with me. The PO he has now that he is out of jail is a new guy, that may not understand the issues, I plan to enlighten him if/when he calls me back.