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So I hotlined BM today..

spittenfire's picture

Well last week when BM was hotlined due to SS continued unexplained absenses from school the Case Worker and DFS had supposedly concocted a plan to offer BM a safety plan that would include placing SS with DH, then GAL would file for an emergent transfer of custody. But shit happened.....all week long we agonized and wondered what the F#$@ was going on. Then we had SS over the weekend and BM picked SS up at our house on 1/19/14.

DH gets a call from school on 1/20/14 that he was not in school and the school was concerned as this was becoming a habit and SS grades were being adversley affected. Then DH text BM and she says he will be on his way. Then later the school notifies us that BM notified the school that she was enrolling him in another school.

Well DH notified the lawyer and told her to file an order for emergency custody change and a motion to prevent relocation. As we suspected many month ago BM moved SS without notifing DH properly and that is very much against the law in MO and can be considered itself a change of circumstance and considered in a motion to modify. DH then went to the school BM said she was enrolling him and told them he did not agree he has joint legal and all decisions in education and switching schools are supposed to be made together and her "relocation" was illegal. So the enrollment got sent to the Assistant superintendent, so we will see what happens there. But he is still not enrolled.

And he is not in school yet again today. He now has 2 f's and 3 C's because of all the days he has missed. Not to mention his grades were already on the downward trend. So notified lawyer this morning that BM when confronted with her breaking the law by illegally moving SS then refused to allow DH talk to ss to make sure he is ok. As well as tell her that according to Missouri state statutes 452.377 that she was in violation and broke the law by moving without properly notifying him. He also told her that he was in contact with the new schoold district and that he let them know the situation and that he did not agree to a change of schools at this time. She continued to ignore my DH requests to have SS call him.

So lawyers recommendation, call sherriff and ask for a safety child check at BF address. And for us to hotline BM again. So I did, it started about his absences and as the questioning persisted it led to the medical neglect, the physical neglect, the belief that the home was not suitable or safe for children. That the child was with BM during her commiting felony acts etc etc etc. Our lawyer is still instructed to file a emergency temporary custody change and a motion to prevent relocation. We believe even if he is with us that he should finish the current year or at least get a chance to have closure when he changes schools. Not leave school on friday and guess what on Monday or tuesday or whenever they finally let you enroll you are going to x new school....suprise.....

So please Steptalkers continue to pray for the safety and wellbeing of my DSS and that his situation and life may finally reach some form of stability!

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spittenfire's picture

he is 9

overworkedmom's picture

Keep us updated. Your story makes my head spin. I am praying that your SS is home with you guy soon!!

tryingmom's picture

Prayers for your SS and for you and DH, it's frustrating when these BMs don't put the child first.