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spackle's picture

"Everyone comes with baggage. Everyone has things that come up that their SO has to deal with. The next person you date could end up with cancer. Are you going to leave them?"

"You don't see the good parts about having a child because you don't want to"

"He's a just a person like anyone else"

"You don't like kids and just don't see any value in having them in your life" (he knew I wasn't a kid person going into our relationship and definitely knew it by the time we broke up and got back together - yet he wouldn't leave me the hell alone)

"People can adapt to anything"

"If you're not happy, I don't think it's because of me, it's because of you"

"You're the perpetually negative one, not me"

"You're always afraid (skid) is going to turn into a horrible person, if he does, it will probably be because of your attitude toward him."

^^^ :-O

The kid and I do not have a bad relationship. He loves me, I care about him to an extent but I'm not super involved - we co-exist peacefully. Frankly, the kid accepts my attitude toward him more than his father does. I do not yell at him, say mean things - nothing like that. No, I'm not a kid person, but skid doesn't realize that.

What's annoying is he is turning this whole thing into being about his kid. It's not, never was. I mean granted, I am not a kid person, always had a rule against dating men with children. He has his son every single weekend which has always been a problem. Not a lifestyle I grew up wanting. But he has been making more time for us this time around, doing a lot of nice things etc but I still just… ugh. So much stress and drama.

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dogtac69's picture

It may be time to move on. He, always, will have a son. For everyday of his life. If kids are not for you, you would be better off with someone who has no children. Good luck.

furkidsforme's picture

Well he's a lovely piece of work, isn't he? His emotional blackmail isn't working to get you back, so now he's bashing you about how simply HORRIBLE you are???

Yeah, right. You're so AWFUL that he wants you back.

OMG you can do so much better. Please block his number, change your email, move... whatever it takes. Just dump this guy already!

Generic's picture

Wow- why are you wanting out?? He sounds super sexy with all that deflecting, whining and manipulation.

spackle's picture

I know. He wonders why I am not physically affectionate, don't want to have sex, etc. Gee, no clue there.

MrsCancer1973's picture

Nowadays, its almost impossible to find someone that is childless and compatible with you. The best way is to try to find common ground when becoming a step parent, which is extremely hard and trying. I have came to the decision to disengage with skids. I hope this method will work out.

Good luck with you!